Envious People Don’t Show Genuine Support

There is a point in your life where you are able to see who genuinely supports you. When you get to that stage it shows you who really care about seeing you live your best life. Envious people don’t want to see you succeed though. They will do everything in their power to stop you from making it towards your success.

Even if the person or people don’t openly show their jealousy just know they express how they REALLY feel about you behind closed doors. The venom of their words speaks negativity in your path. They could be praying hard for you to crumble. Those are the type of people you have to keep an eye on. They can’t be trusted.

Think about it this way let’s say you open up a new business and trying to gain more exposure. So, you publicly announce how it would be great to have people you are close to help you out a bit with spreading the word. There are a couple of people who give you the help and support you need with sharing/liking/commenting on your posts, telling people they may know about your business, and actually buying your product.

Then you got the person who is around you all the time and clearly knows what you’re trying to do claim that they support your business. You may see this person or people as a friend or close family. They will tell you to your face “Oh, I love what you’re doing. I’m going to buy one of your products to show my support for you.” or they may tell you they will like and share whatever you post about your business. The funny thing is they never do any of those things. Yeah, a person may get busy and not be on social media all the time or may have other things going on so they may not see every little thing down their timeline. Or have a clue with what’s happening.

My point is that they are always nowhere to be found when you need a little support but you will see them going above and beyond for other folks. It may make you feel some type of way because you thought they cared about you. Some of you probably still think well that still doesn’t mean the person is jealous of what you are trying to do.

Let’s be real if a person is a true supporter of what you’re doing they will make some effort to show you that they care. An envious person will purposely not be there for you, throw slick opinions at you, and make sure they are around you while you’re having a hard time. I bet they won’t be around when you are successful because that’s what they never wanted to see in the first place.

Watch who you share your dreams and ambitions with. Some people are jealous of your ability to push towards your dreams. They might even see potential in you that you don’t see in yourself at the moment.  Keep your circle full with people who want to see you win in life.




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Your Love & Lies…

Suffocated with your lies

Knowing the truth but my heart wants to deny

The love I have for you causes me to be so blind

Why can’t I leave you behind?

Loving you is convenient

But leaving you is heartbreaking…

The repeat of the hurt triggers me to hurt you back

I want you to feel the pain too

Early karma needs to come back to you…




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I’m the Snake That’s Going to Bite

Girl, I’m the snake that’s going to bite

My venom will poison you internally

I gave you warnings

Did you catch them?

I’ve been plotting for a while now

Time is finally winding down

This will be payback for the betrayal

I’ll watch the venom torture you slowly

Remember I’m the snake that’s going to bite



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Things I Learned This Summer 

As summer is coming to an end.  I start reflecting on all the things I did. While sitting there in my thoughts I noticed a few things that changed for me. Some were good and the rest was sort of bad in my opinion. Everything that happened taught me a few lessons. It even opened my eyes more to certain situations. It’s time for me to share the things I learned this summer.

Lessons I Learned This Summer…

1) Take advantage of my time alone: When I’m alone and have time for myself I tend to get lazy. Sometimes I don’t like that because I know I need to get blog posts done, homework ( I took college summer classes), and a few other things. Once night fall come around I regret not doing some of those things because I  had plenty of time to do it. Especially when I wanted to post good content on my blog. Laziness is a bad trait!

2) Stop looking forward for plans with “friends”: When I made a couple of plans with some friends that didn’t work out. Sometimes it made me a little upset because they would either cancel at the last-minute or come up with some other excuses. That’s why I stop making plans and let life take its course. There were times I did get lucky and got to hang out with my best friend though.

3) Find time to take a vacation: I took three unexpected vacations this summer. Honestly, I’m glad I did get a chance to get away for a while. This summer was the first time in a long time I went on a vacation. Every one of the vacations I went on was meant for me.

Those were the major things I learned this summer. Overall, I enjoyed my summer. I can’t complain. If I had to go back in time to do everything over again. I probably would. Is there anything you learned this summer? If so, share it in the comment section.

© Reflection of Des 2017

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Friends What are Those? 

Friends? What are those?

I can’t remember the last time

 I felt like I had a real friend

Maybe back in middle school or maybe never

Every friend I get close to finds a way to disappear away from me…

That’s part of my issue of getting attached to “friends”



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Qualities that Attract a Girl Like Me

I’m not a picky person when it comes to finding qualities that attract me. I don’t expect anyone to be perfect. We all have our flaws. I won’t hold your mistakes against you. I like to get to know someone before I talk about what type of person they are.

List of Qualities…

Intelligence: Having knowledge is so important. I mean you don’t have to be the world’s smartest person but I need someone who I can connect with on an intellectual level.

Caring: You have to care about my feelings. I can’t be with someone who is selfish.

Understands when I need space: Sometimes I need “me time.” I don’t always like to feel smothered by my partner. Time away from each other sometimes will give me a chance to miss you more.

Does sweet things for me without me knowing: Surprise me sometimes. You don’t have to buy me gifts all the time. You can write a sweet letter expressing how you feel about me, getting me my favorite food, or listening about my day. Maybe even telling me how beautiful I am.

Loyalty: Loyalty represents if you’re going to stay by myself no matter what we go through. You have to have my back sometimes through certain situations. If you show me loyalty I will give it back to you. It connects with being trustworthy.

Honesty: I can’t trust you if you won’t tell me the truth. Even if my feelings get hurt by your honesty. I will still be happy you didn’t lie to me.

Trustworthy: It’s plenty of people who broke my trust. You have to show me genuine trust. Remember I can sense when someone isn’t trustworthy. DON’T TRY TO PLAY GAMES WITH ME!

I’m not done yet…

Ambitious: You have to have some type of career goals. It doesn’t have to be some high-status job. I will support your dreams as long as it’s nothing illegal.

Nice Smile: I’m a sucker for nice teeth! I want to see your nice smile shine in the sunlight lol. Why do I sound so lame?

A sense of Humor: I’m a goofy person who loves to laugh. You don’t have to be a comedian but try your best to make me laugh somehow.

Positive Person: I will always need positive vibes surrounding me. I can vibe with negative energy.

Kind Heart: You have to have a kind heart because I won’t feel safe with a cold-hearted person.

Maturity: We can play around sometimes. Let’s be honest, some point of time in our lives we have to be mature. I can’t be with a childish person who makes poor choices in life.

Faithful: It’s no point of me getting serious with you if you not going to be faithful. I shouldn’t have to go into deep details with this quality.

The list could go on…

I can name plenty of other things but I’ll stop the list here. These are the most important qualities that attract my attention. Like I said earlier in this post I’m not a picky person. Even if you don’t have all of these qualities. I can still make something work out.

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Definition of a Best Friend 

Talk to me on a regular 

Someone I can call during a tough time

Find time to check on me even if they are busy

Make plans to hang out often

Being trustworthy 

Never turn fake or switch up on me

Keep everything we talk about between us

Too bad it’s not easy to find a true friend like this….


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Have you ever had a friendship that you thought would last forever but it didn’t? If you said yes then you’re not the only one. I know that sometimes we outgrow our old childhood friends because eventually yall mature into two different people who don’t share the same interest anymore. There are two outcomes in situations like this either the people in the friendship go on with their lives and are fine with it or they hold a grudge against one another because maybe something serious happened in a bad way. Every time I get close to someone they always disappear out of my life. I guess they are called “temporary friends.” This is mostly why I don’t like getting attach to people. I mean I enjoy the fun memories but I just wish that I didn’t have to go through a series of friendships. It’s better to have a solid friendship where I could tell my friend or best friends most things when I need advice or someone to have my back. One thing I will not tolerate is having a deceitful, fake, and sneaky friend or best friend, though. I will not force those type of friends in my life. That is less drama I have to deal with. I just thank God I don’t have to go through any unnecessary drama with friends that have sly motives against me. Anyways, I believe that if you have a close and sincere friendship with someone always cherish the great moments that both of you experience together. Sometimes it’s hard to find a true friend that cares about you.

©  Reflection of Desi 2017

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