When Things Ain’t Right I Need You 

Lord change the negative into the positive Keep me strong

Heal me when I’m hurt

Don’t forget about me

I know I don’t do right all the time

I’m just not in a happy place right now

Remove me when the unhappy place

Make things positive in my mind

Change my life into something better

Keep me focus

Let all the confusion leave my heart & mind

Heal me please

I need you so right now

I can’t do this on my own

I know things ain’t right

I just don’t know how to fix it

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First Time Traveling Alone 😮😐🤗

Hey, readers, after a year of not seeing my boyfriend. I’m finally traveling to NY to see him. I miss being around him in person. For those of you who don’t know. I am in a long distance relationship. Check out my post about long distance relationships. My boyfriend lives in New York, USA and I live in South Carolina, USA. We don’t get to see each other often because traveling is EXPENSIVE! So, now I have a chance to see him this weekend. Y’all just don’t know how happy I am. Plus, his mom wedding is this weekend too! That’s going to be exciting. The only part I’m worried about is traveling alone because it’s my first time. I pray that I have a safe trip. I’m going to feel so lonely without my mom and sister with me. Also, it will be my first time visiting New York so that’s another nerve wrecking thing. I shouldn’t worry too much cause I know my boyfriend will make me feel comfortable there. Everyone pray that I have a safe trip going there. I’m leaving this evening and arrive there in the morning. I’ll be sure to share my experience. Have a nice day everyone. I’ll be back later lol.

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Maybe it’s a Sign for Me… 

Recently, I kept seeing the word resilience. I’m assuming this word was maybe a sign for me. No matter what I read or heard on tv this word kept popping up. So, I decided to search for the meaning of this word. When I read the meaning it was relevant to what’s going on with my life now. I guess I can say maybe it’s a sign from God.

 A Better Understanding of the Word

Origin of Word: Latin

 Definition from Dictionary.com: 1) the power or ability to return to the original form, position, etc., after being bent, compressed, or stretched; elasticity. 2) ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy.

How many times have I seen the word? 4

I know I am not the only one that had this experience. Have any of you kept seeing a certain sign that you thought was for you? Like it seems like no matter what do or where you go. The sign or word keeps showing up. I’m a firm believer in everything that we acknowledge in life is meant for us to know.

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Never Give it to Him

Never give your heart to a guy who doesn’t care about your feelings

Never accept the lies

Never give him chance after chance

He will take advantage of you

Never ignore the warning signs

Never forget your worth

Never trust him if the trust is already broken

Never lose yourself for him

Baby girl love yourself!

You’re worth so much more than what you believe

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15 Fun Facts about Me

Hi, readers, I know most of you are interested in getting to know me better. I decided to do a post on 15 fun facts about me. I’m hoping everyone enjoys it. I’m sure we will have something in common.

1) I gain a new friend every year.

2) I have a birthmark on my chest that looks like a hickey.

3) I was an early bloomer (Girls will understand what I mean).

4) I can’t ride a bike.

5) Chris Brown was my first celebrity crush.

6) People always think I’m younger than my real age.

7) I’m always listening to R&B songs.

8) I always wear my natural hair in a ponytail or bun.

9) I learned how to dance from dancers in music videos.

10) I can spend hours on my computer.

11) When I feel stressed out I play the Sims 4.

12) My dreams predict situations that happen to me in the future.

13) I don’t give in to peer pressure.

14) I’m always eager to try new things.

15) One day I want to adopt kids.

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Worst Emotion a Person Can Feel

Heartbreak is the worst emotion a person can feel. It’s a pain you’ll never get used to. The pain can literally kill you inside. When people used to say you can die from a heartbreak. I didn’t take what they said seriously until I had my first one. My heart felt like it shut down on me. Nothing would make me go back in time to experience that again. Heartbreak doesn’t feel good at all. Most would say they wouldn’t wish that on their worse enemy. I don’t blame them because I wouldn’t neither. Our emotions get the best of us. Sometimes it may feel like we can’t control them. Don’t let your emotions stop you from following your heart.  Would you consider heartbreak as an emotion?

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I Drove Myself Crazy 

Readers I drove myself CRAZY!! Honestly, July doesn’t feel like a good blogging month for me. It seems like too much is going on. I know soon it’s going to get hard trying to balance blogging and going back to school on campus. There are so many blog posts in my drafts that I haven’t published because they are not “good enough” yet. I came to the conclusion that I’m putting too much pressure on myself. For this month I might just do freestyle writing. I’m just going to go with the flow with my thoughts and publish some posts. Maybe I taught myself a lesson to stop putting pressure on myself and over thinking. Some of you probably been wondering why I haven’t been posting as much as I usually do. Another thing that was on my mind was am I throwing my blog focus off. I shouldn’t think that way because I gave it the name reflection of Des for a reason. Everything through my blog is a reflection of myself and a way to help others through my experiences. Y’all will see me posting again soon. Talk to everyone later 😊. I feel so relieved to get this off my mind.

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8 Ways to Breakup with Someone

Breaking up with someone is hard or an easy thing to do. It depends on the situation in your relationship. You may find yourself stuck and don’t know what to do. Don’t worry I got you! You’re going to learn easy ways to break up with your partner. I guarantee you it will give you the results you’re looking for. Relationships are not always a bowl full of lucky charms.

Let’s Get Started…

1) Find a Quiet/Private Location: Set a time and date at a quiet and private place. It helps to avoid any distractions. You want your boyfriend or girlfriend undivided attention.

2) Tone of Voice: When you’re breaking up with someone you want to stay calm. If you start with attitude in your voice. It can go downhill real fast! Using a calm tone of voice can make the person feel at ease.

3) Ignore them: Yeah, this tip may sound silly but it does get the job done. If you’re in a relationship with someone that’s smart enough to catch hints. Then you might want to try this tip. Now if your partner is crazy you might want to try another motive.

4) Make a song: I know this tip might sound a little crazy. Even though the song may not have sweet lyrics to it. Your boyfriend or girlfriend will take the time to listen to it though. Who wouldn’t listen to a song that is dedicated to them?

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5) Get a Friend to Do It: This is not the best thing to do but hey sometimes you got to make decisions you’re not proud of. Your boyfriend or girlfriend might think you’re a coward. There are no real rules on how to break up with someone so it doesn’t matter how you do it.

6) Write a letter: Writing out your feelings gets a lot off your mind. After you’re done pouring out your feelings in the letter. You can read it to your partner to explain to them why you don’t want to be in the relationship. If you’re too nervous to read it in front of them. Try sending the letter in the mail. It’s the effort that counts, right?

7) Send a text: We are in the century where communicating through a phone can take you a long way. You are not the only one breaking up with someone through a text message. Maybe a text is the only way you can get through to them.

8) Video Chat: If you can’t see your partner in person try video chatting with them. It’s sort of like being in person because you get to see each other face to face. You’re just physically in the room with them though. Make sure you have good Wi-Fi connection because that can ruin your process with breaking up with the person.

In conclusion, everyone has their own ways to break up with someone. Maybe the tips above gave you a few ideas. Dealing with a breakup isn’t easy. We all know that of course. If your heart feels like your relationship is not working out. Take the next step to move on.


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Lost with No Help 

As I feel my thoughts cluttering my mind

I start breaking down

Everything that surrounded me fell apart

No one was there to help

I was alone

Lost in my world of trouble

Oh God, this isn’t a good feeling

Maybe I died a little inside…

Why do I have to be lost with no help?


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Where Have I Been?

Hello, readers, I know I was M.I.A (missing in action) for a couple of days last week. While I was away I was on vacation. It was much needed. I went to Myrtle beach South Carolina. I love going there cause it’s so much to do. My vacation was fun and I enjoyed it. Also, I got a tan lol. I wish I had pictures to show everyone but I was too busy trying to relax and enjoy my vacation. This week I’ll be back to making blog posts. I just wanted to give everyone an update.

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