Don’t Creep Anyone Out with Your Profile Picture

On social media, it’s always good to have a profile picture. If you don’t have one it is sort of creepy especially if you try to follow or give a friend request to people you don’t know. Most people will think you’re a fake account. Nobody likes to accept anyone without a picture.

For the people who do put up a profile picture. Is your profile picture presentable enough to make people feel comfortable to follow you? Or does it scare them off?  A presentable picture would be a nice picture of you smiling. You can even get your model status on and make different facial expressions or poses for a good profile picture. A creepy profile picture, such as a picture of you holding a knife in your hand with bloodshot eyes. Who wants to follow a person that has that as their profile picture? First of all, it’s scary. Second, it shows that the person can be a little crazy.

Don’t get me wrong I know people love having silly pictures as their profile picture. Sometimes certain pictures are not funny to everyone. Just keep that in mind. If you’re a comedian or a person that likes being silly all the time. Please let it be known for the people who don’t know you personally. So, they will understand your silly or outrageous pictures.

When someone follows me on social media that I do not know. I always overview their profile before attempting to follow them back. The first thing I do is read the stuff that they post. Then I see if they have any uploaded pictures that don’t make it obvious they’re a fake profile. Also, I try to see what location the person is from. It helps me to figure out if they are from my area and we might have a mutual friend. If the person location is not from my area that is cool too. I like making friends from all over the world. Last but not least I read their bio. It helps me learn about their personality a bit.

In conclusion, your profile picture can help or hurt you with gaining followers. As they all say, your first impression is important. Don’t scare or creep people out with your picture.

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 What makes a profile picture creepy to you? 

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Don’t Judge People or Their Life

Everyone has their own life struggles to deal with. Life loves throwing obstacles in our way. Even when we try to avoid them. It’s our jobs to stay positive and take some control. When someone is going through a difficult situation don’t judge their decisions. They’re doing what fits best for their situation.

Even though you may not understand it just let everything flow. Do not I repeat do not say things to hurt their feelings neither. Be wise with your choice of words. The person can easily take their anger, pain, and frustration out on you. I can guarantee you they have everything bottled up inside. Why would you want to say hurtful things to someone anyway? No one in this world is perfect.

Judging someone just because their life doesn’t glitter in gold like yours. Shouldn’t be the reason you think you’re better than anyone. Remember words do hurt. One day life is well. Then in a split second everything gets taken away from you. You can find yourself put through a similar situation as a person you judged. Stay humble. You always need to watch what you say to people. You better pray or hope the person has a good heart to forgive you. Then lend you some help. Not everyone will be open to care for someone who gave them harsh judgment on their life.

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Why Glorify being a Hoe?

As I scroll down my timeline on social media. I always see many young women glorify sleeping around with other women boyfriends or husbands. It disgusts me. Why would you want to take credit for doing something like that? Where are some of these women morals? Women who think this is a cute thing to do should be ashamed of themselves.  I hate that society today is so messed up that they boost these women head up. They make it seem like it’s a good thing to act like a hoe. I mean everyone makes silly mistakes but at some point of time you’re old enough to know right from wrong.

My definition of a hoe is a person who has sexual intercourse with many people and doesn’t care who it is. I had to let everyone know that so they can get a clear understanding what I’m talking about. Social media play a big role into why girls think it’s okay to sleep around with other people’s boyfriends or girlfriends. Many guys give these girls attention because they know these women are easy and they can get anything they want out of them. There are even some memes on social media that make jokes about being a hoe to make it seem like it’s a good thing.

Think about how some of these celebrity or regular everyday women get famous. I’ll give you a few examples Amber Rose, Kim Kardashian, and goal diggers that try to date every million or billionaire. I know some of them may have changed their lives into something positive but their past keeps haunting them. That’s exactly why it’s important to be careful what you do in life. I understand that sometimes you have to make decisions you’re not proud of. Please don’t think doing hoe activities is the only way to reach a high level of success. I’m just not comfortable with how society loves glorifying hoes but don’t acknowledge a woman who has respect for herself and doing something positive. This is why most men try to disrespect women. They love reflecting on all these women on social media that don’t have self-respect for themselves.

Let’s have a discussion

Everything that I mentioned in this post is my opinion. I’m not a person that judge others so don’t take what I said in an offensive way. If you agree with some of the points I made in this post. Let’s have a discussion in the comment section! If you disagree with some things I said feel free to comment also.

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The Truth Doesn’t Always Hurt

Sometimes the truth doesn’t hurt

I need to hear your honesty

Have you ever thought about maybe I feel the same?

Don’t hide anything from me

When I said I wanted the truth I meant it

Don’t try to play me as a fool

Remember the truth doesn’t always hurt



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4 Songs to Help Build Your Confidence

If the songs that are listed down below aren’t on your playlist then you need to add them. We all have moments where we may not feel confident about ourselves. Since music cures mostly everyone problems enjoy this list of songs!


Unpretty by TLC: As a female sometimes there are days where you don’t feel pretty or beautiful. This TLC song makes you feel confident because it helps you embrace your features you were born with. Also, the song lets you know it’s okay to make changes to yourself but remember that you’re beautiful just the way you are.

F**kin’ Perfect by P!nk: Before I start talking about the song first I want to say I love P!nk because she’s not afraid to be herself and express how she feels. Her song f**ckin’ perfect sticks out because it talks about how we make mistakes but our mistakes don’t make us less of a person. She gives you comfort in the song to tell you that you’re still perfect and your flaws don’t matter to her.

Pretty Girl Rock by Keri Hilson: This song expresses how you are beautiful and don’t worry about others that are jealous of you! It’s an inspirational song for women also.

I Am Not My Hair by India.Arie ft Akon: India.Arie always makes inspirational songs. Her soulful music is hard not to love. I Am Not My Hair is a true example of it too. This song basically explains how you should not judge a person from their appearance. You should get to know their inner personality. She sings about her hair journey and battle with cancer in this song also.

Take a listen to these songs and tell me which one were your favorite. I’m curious to know what song sticks out to you the most. Remember as long as you have confidence in yourself no one else opinion should matter.


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Letter to You…

You don’t know about my silent cries at night. You’ll never understand how much I still hurt inside from your mistakes. I’m so damage to the point I don’t think I can love anyone anymore. There is an emptiness in my heart. Nothing can make it feel whole again. Sometimes I blame myself for not leaving when I had ways out. Every time I tell you the truth you can handle it. I can’t stick around with someone who damages my heart. You were my first heartbreak. I was never the since that day or shall I say night. As I’m writing this my face is stained with tears. That shit stills hurt! Every time it replays in my head. The pain still feels fresh in my heart. Even though I want someone special in my life. I don’t think I’ll be able to love them like I want to. I’ll be stuck in fear that they will intentionally break my heart. I hate that it has to be this way.

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Confessions of a Passionate Writer (Collaboration)

First, I want to thank Kirah for collabing with me. We collab with each other on why are we passionate about writing. Be sure to read her article Confessions of a Passionate Writer: from the UK to the USA. For those of you who are not familiar with Kirah. She is a traveler who currently resides in England and is finding her footing in this world by eating, teaching and of course living out of a suitcase to write about the beauty that this world has to offer. Visit her blog to read more of her posts! 

My love for writing…

I can truly say I’m a writer. There’s not a day that goes by without me thinking about writing. I love seeing pages in my notebook filled with my soulful words. God gave me this gift and I’m loving it! I was always good in English. I didn’t know my gift was showing early. Now I’m glad I realized it. Every time I write down my feelings, thoughts, and ideas it relieves me. It gives me a breath of happiness. I would be lost if I didn’t find joy in writing.

Writing is a way to get my voice heard. It helps me to reach out to my readers and touch their hearts. Honestly, it means a lot to me when my readers read my posts. Y’all are my biggest supporters! I try my best to make a positive affect on everyone. I feel like it’s my purpose in life to connect with my readers or anybody else through my writing.

Starting my blog open up my eyes to how good I am at writing. My blog started off as a hobby for me. Now it’s a job that I enjoy doing. I get excited when I have new articles to share with my supporters. Sometimes, I have to laugh at myself at my excitement for writing. You can’t blame me for acting that way because not everyone enjoys writing.

Before I end this post, I want to most importantly thank God again for blessing me with this gift. Now I finally see my purpose in life. My passion for writing has given me happiness, a voice to say what others are feeling, and to inspire others who have the same dreams as me.

Thanks for reading my post. Please don’t forget to visit Kirah blog and read her article Confessions of a Passionate Writer: from the UK to the USA. 

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Represent Where You From! 

I know I have readers from all across the world. Now it’s time for you to represent where you from! For example, I’m from South Carolina in the USA. Currently, I still live here. I’m interested to know where you’re from and what are fun activities to do in your country or city. Please don’t be shy to share with me or everyone else. Getting to know more about my readers help me connect with them more. Let’s get social. 😊 Also, put a link to your blog so everyone can go visit it!

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