Start Living for Yourself

There is a point in your life when you must start living for yourself. When I say start living for yourself I mean making yourself happy and not letting anyone or anything get in the way of your happiness.

You have to break old bad habits. Explore new opportunities or hobbies. Figuring out how to make yourself happy first. Your opinion about yourself matters the most. Remember you are your biggest critic.

That’s why you need to make the effort to make yourself happy. Happiness is the key to living a comfortable life. Opening up that gate of happiness will give you a lifetime full of satisfaction. You won’t have many regrets, unlike the person who didn’t take the risk of finding their true happiness.

Another thing you will start noticing is your self-worth or value. That’s when you know you don’t deserve to deal with BS. There will be something inside you that puts you on a high level of confidence.

Just remember it’s nothing wrong with being selfish about your wants and needs. Even if it’s something out of the ordinary it shouldn’t stop you from doing it. Start living for yourself. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone else. You are in control of your own happiness.




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Tips on How To Support Others

Showing support towards others shouldn’t be as hard as most people try to make it seem. Some people would rather see someone struggle instead of helping out at least a little bit. I guess society has most people scared to show genuine support towards another person because you’re helping “competition.” Why can’t everybody win and help each other out? Hopefully, the tips that are shared in this article will motivate you to start supporting others more. 

Show your Support

Share a person post on social media: Whenever you see someone asking for support or help on social media see what you can do to help them. Most of the time a person will ask you to share or simply like their post. Try sharing and liking their post even if you’re not interested in what they are posting maybe your followers are though. The only time you shouldn’t worry about sharing their post is if it’s something illegal, inappropriate, or something you’re against. It’s not hard at all to share a post. You share everything else on your timeline anyway!

Show Interest in their content or product: If you like a product or content someone post make sure you bring it to their attention that you like what they are posting. That can help them keep sharing stuff you like. Also, they will appreciate your support. Your support can make a positive effect on a person. 

Show support and you will get support back: Have you ever noticed once you show support towards others they will do the same to you? Sometimes you should make the first move to get yourself noticed. Once you catch the person attention then they will automatically go to your profile and see what you’re all about. Basically, you get yourself some exposure through socializing on social media or maybe even talking in person because they may be interested in what you’re doing.

Let’s start supporting others more. I challenge you to share one of your Facebook friends, IG, or Twitter followers post if they are trying to promote their business products, website content, or party etc… Your one or more shares can make a difference. Before you go answer this question why do you think people make it difficult to show support to others?

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Time to Love Yourself

Love Yourself

It’s time to put yourself first. Why are you holding yourself back? You deserve to be loved. Your 1st love has to be yourself. Falling in love with yourself is the sweetest love you will experience. No one else love can compare to the love you have for yourself. It’s true when they say you must learn how to love yourself before you love someone else.

Self-love will bring you happiness, confidence, and high self-esteem. Your inner beauty will overshadow your external beauty. You will grow a new level of respect for yourself also. Your strength will overpower any weakness you had. Don’t be afraid to start loving yourself NOW! There is never a wrong time to start doing it. Take advantage of the time you have alone. Learn about every little piece of yourself. You are a beautiful person and don’t forget that! 

If you made it to this point of the article it was meant for you to read this. Maybe this topic has been on your mind lately and you didn’t know how or when to start. Well, now you have your confirmation. Loving yourself is the best thing that will ever happen to you! 

How do you feel about loving yourself? Do you think that self-love is healthy and important? If you started your self-love journey already share your experience.

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5 Ways to Deal With a Nightmare

Nightmares come and go when they feel like it. The worst part about it is the fact we can’t control when it happens. It leaves us waking up in fear and not wanting to fall back to sleep. In this article, you will read a few tips that may help you if you are having nightmares.

Remind yourself it’s not real: Dreams can feel so real especially nightmares. It’s important for us to try to remind yourself in the dream that it’s not real. That reminder can calm you down a bit in your nightmare.

Pray: This is a tip you don’t have to do if you don’t want to. From my experience, I prayed to God to get me out of some of my nightmares and I woke up out of the bad dream. Once I start doing that it amazed me how prayer actually worked. It may some crazy to you but trust me it worked.

Don’t eat junk food: This is one of the most common tips. In case you didn’t know eating junk food before bed can cause nightmares. It may sound weird but it’s true. Crazy how food can affect how we dream. Just like any food can affect our mood. I believe it may be a myth though. Here are articles about junk food causing bad dreams:

Do Certain Foods Really Cause Bad Dreams?

17 Foods that Cause Bad Dreams

6 Foods That Can Affect Your Dreams & Sleep

Use a dreamcatcher: Most people like to have dream catchers above their bed to catch their bad dreams. It’s a way of protecting you while you’re sleeping. Indians were a firm believer of the dream catchers. Even though I have one I never experience it taking away my bad dreams. Everyone is different though. You still should try it out.

Sleep with a Bible: If you carry a Bible with you then you should sleep with it under your pillow. My grandmother told me how she use to put her Bible under her pillow to keep her safe. I always thought it was clever.

After reading this article, I hope you find some tips that will work out for you. If you do try some of the tips share your experience in the comment section. What are your thoughts on nightmares?




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Things You Should Blog About

Before you start reading deeper into this article. I’m not going to give you some bullshit advice (excuse my language). It’s not going to sound cliché either. So, let’s get right into it.

One thing you need to remind yourself is that YOU are in control of what goes on. This is YOUR blog not anybody else stuff.  You can post anything that you choose. Don’t over worry yourself about having a certain “niche” to focus on. I believe that is most of our problem. We get caught up in trying to focus on some certain criteria. It takes away from our creativity and holds us back on expressing how we feel. You will always find yourself thinking “are my readers or subscribers going to like this?” Will they stop reading my content because it’s not what they are expecting to read on my blog? That’s one thing you shouldn’t pressure yourself to worry about.

Normally when you read advice about what should your blog be about. Every person mentions a “niche.” Yeah, a niche is cool to think about and everything but honestly, in my opinion, it’s not too important. Of course, you want people to understand what your website is all about. I completely get that point. Eventually, they will understand what you’re all about. Just go with the flow of things.

When you are first starting out with blogging just create anything that comes to mind. It doesn’t matter one day you’re talking about painting a portrait then the next day you post about walking a dog. As long as it represents topics you enjoy writing about that is all that matters. The main goal of a blog is to write what you are passionate about right? That is why they create certain categories to place things in.

Instead of labeling yourself as a beauty, travel, or fashion blogger. Think of your blog as a simple lifestyle blog. Calling yourself a lifestyle blogger can give you a chance at being versatile on your site. If you are not cool with that like I said before it is YOUR blog. Do whatever you want.

The point I am getting at is when you are in control to bring your creativity to the light. Stop letting minor things hold you back. Especially, if you want to create your own blog. Blogging is a way to express yourself through writing and sharing it with the world. When you stay in tune with being yourself. It will shape your site into the most unique piece of work you ever put together.

If you read this article to the end. What are some challenges do you expect to face when creating blog content? Are you worried your blog won’t be good enough? Share your thoughts in the comment section. If you are already a blogger share some more advice to other bloggers.


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Rushing into Relationships Isn’t Always a Good Idea

Rushing into relationships isn’t always a good idea. You didn’t take the time to learn the other person’s personality. Did you even figure out what you want out of a relationship before you rushed in one? Maybe you did, and everything worked out fine.

Let’s think about the bad outcome like things didn’t work out. For the first month, you’re in heaven and in love with your partner. Then during the next month, you see how rocky things start to get. The both of you seem to argue about everything under the sun. Your “puppy love” turns into hate towards each other. Everything you planned with the person erases from your mind.

After a while, you start to doubt rushing to get into a relationship with them. You’re even embarrassed that you proved everyone right that told you not to rush things. Relationships aren’t supposed to be rushed. In the beginning, it’s fine to take your time with the person you like. That’s what they have the “talking stage” for.

Give yourself time to enjoy the person before you get fully committed to them. This is the time to chill. The point I’m trying to make is if you’re rushing a relationship with someone. It probably won’t work out. Life is about going with the flow of things. If fate wants you with the person you have feelings for. Then you will end up in a relationship with them.


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Best Places to Read

Sometimes it’s hard to find the perfect place to read. Most places are so noisy and full of distractions. No one likes to get distracted from a good book right? You’ll read about the best places to read.

Library: The library probably was your first thought also. It’s the perfect place to read because the rules strictly enforce for everyone to be quiet in the building. Another good thing about being at the library to read is that you can stay there for hours.

Bookstore: Even though people come in and out of the bookstore. They have areas where you can relax and read your book. It’s similar to a library, but not as quiet though.

Park: You can always find a quiet and secret spot at a park. There are always benches around so you can sit and chill while you read your book. Even though the park is full of people you still can find a spot to get some peace of quiet to read.

Quiet Room at Home: Take advantage of the quiet time you have at your house. Your room is probably the best place in the house to read a good book. If not, you still have the living room or any other extra room.

On a beach: Hearing the ocean waves and cool breeze will put you in a relaxing mood to read a good book. Make sure you’re not too close to the water though. You wouldn’t want the waves to come wet your spot lol.

After reading this article now it’s easier for you to find a good place to read. Have you read at any of these places before? If so, tell me about your experience. Also, if you have any other places in mind that I didn’t mention feel free to share it in the comment section.


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Signs You’re Getting Catfished!

Many people have got catfished at least once in their lifetime. If you haven’t considered yourself lucky! Even though we live in a society where you can discover the signs easily. People still get catfished anyway. Oh yeah, if you’re not familiar with the term catfish I’ll explain it to you. Basically, catfish means a person hiding behind a fake profile. Usually, the person uses someone else pictures on their social media profile. For example, the person can easily search on google to get pictures of a stranger and post it on the fake profile they created. It’s crazy how easy it is to steal someone pictures on the internet.

Here are the signs…

Excuses to not video chat: Nowadays it’s so easy to get a cheap phone with a camera to video chat. You can even buy a cheap webcam from Amazon or your local electronics store. No one should have a problem with video chatting with someone they are interested in. Remember that tip. Yes, sometimes you may get nervous. Eventually, you would get on camera for video chatting.

Pictures look too Professional: When I say pictures look too professional. It’s those high-quality photos that you can tell when someone went to a photographer to get them done. Regular ordinary people don’t have a pile of pictures like that on their profile. Yes, of course, the iPhone 7, 8, and X have high-quality cameras, but you can still tell it came from a phone and not a digital camera. Usually, models, celebrities, and bloggers plus others post professional pictures. I’m not saying you won’t get lucky and those type of people could message you on social media. Sometimes you should look closely at certain things on a personal profile.

Always “moving”: For some reason, a catfish always say they live in one state. Then a couple of months later they live somewhere else. It’s understandable if the person is in the army and move around from place to place. Catfish people always lie about their location.

As long as the internet is still up and running people will continue to get catfished. Hopefully, the tips you read or listen to in the podcast help you watch out for a catfish. Have you ever had an experience with someone catfishing you? If so, how did you feel about it?


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Save Your Money the Right Way 

Believe it or not, money rules the world. It brings out the evil in most. Don’t let money change you. Start investing your money the right way. First, you need to start saving money. You can start with a dollar or up. Put it in a jar, piggy bank, or open up a savings account. You never know when you might be stuck in a rut and need extra cash.

Sometimes you have to think about your future than a present moment of spending money. It’s nothing wrong with treating yourself. Just spend your money wisely. If you start wasting money you’ll be struggling for a long time. It’s like you’re making the same mistakes over and over.

Yes, I understand that you have bills to pay. That’s always the first thing you should pay anyway. Even if you have a few coins left after you pay bills. It’s nothing wrong with putting that in your jar of money. Every bit counts right? That money will add up.

There’s no pressure in saving money

This article isn’t for pressuring you to save money. It’s purpose is to make you think about how much money you can save instead of wasting it. Money can’t buy your happiness. It can get you out of debt though. Try figuring out ways you can save money throughout the week or month. If you already save money. How do you restrict yourself from spending unnecessary money? 

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Don’t Know What to Blog About? Here’s Tips for You!

There are days when bloggers struggle with what to write about. Most of the time our brains are burnt out from writing. Another problem is we may have posts already in our draft. We just don’t want to post them because it’s still not finish. Well, since I run into those problems like any other blogger. I thought I’ll give a few tips.

Don’t know what to blog about? Here’s Tips for You!

Take a day off – Even if you are concerned that you won’t get much traffic on your blogging day off. You can always re post your old blog posts on your social media account. It’s always a few people out there that haven’t read those posts already. Taking a break from blogging for a day or more can help you get yourself together. Your brain should relax sometimes.

Be Honest with Your Readers – Explain to your readers you don’t know what to blog about for that day. Maybe you can switch roles and ask them what are topics you should write about. I’m sure they will like that.

Plan Ahead of Time – Planning ahead of time isn’t always easy. Some of us don’t have extra time to do that. Try your best to start a schedule. Maybe your planning days can start on Sunday. That will give you time to plan for the next coming up week.

Buy a Writing Prompt Book – You can buy a writing prompt book from Barnes and Noble and Books-a-million. I brought two of my books from Barnes and Noble. They’re not expensive at all. So, you don’t have to worry about spending lots of money on one. It’s good to have one on your writer’s block days. There are so many random topics that you could write about.

These are the two books that I have.






Google Topics to Write About – Of course, it is common sense to go on the internet and search topics to write about. There are plenty of other good websites that gives you new ideas.

Before you go…

Before you go I’m going to give you a few topics to write about. I wasn’t going to let you leave without helping you out some more. Don’t worry I got you!

1) Worst babysitting experience

2) Experience moving to a new state

3) What’s your family tradition during Christmas or Thanksgiving

4) Favorite Vacation

5) Goals for this Fall

6) Embarrassing moment you had in public

7) One thing you hate about social media

8) First time you lost something important to you

9) What made you start blogging

10) What’s your favorite school memory

I’m hoping these tips help you out. Now it’s time to put your mind in focus mode. GET TO WRITING! 

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