One-sided friendships are annoying to deal with especially if you take friendships seriously. When I say one-sided friendships I’m talking about the ones where you stick by your friend side through rough times, showed loyalty, trust, and gave support. You probably treated the person like family too. But they didn’t show you the same type of love back. Basically, this is the friend that takes advantage of you for their own personal needs. They benefit from being your friend because they know you would go above and beyond just to make sure they are good.
From experience, I helped so many “friends” out especially when they needed a shoulder to lean on. Those friends would come to me for advice dealing with family or relationships issues. Being a good friend I listen to their problems and gave as much help as I could. The sad part about my friendship with those people they barely return the favor. When I’m in need for advice or need a listening ear all I get is “dang that sucks”, “I hope things get better”, or “I’m sorry to hear that.” I don’t want to hear those cliche responses. Yes, I am aware certain people don’t know how to comfort others when they are in need. Some people can’t help that. My point is if I put effort into our friendship then you should do the same. Don’t expect someone to always be there for you if you act like you don’t appreciate it. That don’t sit right with me if you’re okay with being a one sided friend.
When you put yourself in the position to be a person friend you are expected to do certain things. I mean I’m not saying you are obligated to do the things that I mention but I just want to point out a couple of things. As a friend you are expected to show support, be trustworthy, give real/helpful advice, and a person to hang out with when you have free time. That’s just to name a couple of things because I know every friendship is different. Hopefully, you are getting my point though.
Don’t ever waste your time being in a friendship where you feel like a person isn’t there for you like you need them to be. If you want your friendship to work then communicate with them about how you feel. Sometimes communication brings awareness to situations. Get you a friend that values friendships as much as you do.
Have you ever found yourself in a one sided friendship? Share your experience in the comment section.
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There is no trust
All I can do is look at you in disgust
I thought our bond was stronger
That’s what I get for giving you a benefit of the doubt
Now it’s no reason for me to pout
Or even show out
That’s all you gave me
It’s cool though
Karma will hit you at the front door
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Is what you should’ve taken with me
Was ready to give you the world
I could’ve given you everything you needed
A chance with me…
Is what you needed ❤️
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I have an idea which just popped in my head. I’m interested in making more friends from a different race or ethnicity. As you know from my diversity blog I love making friends with people that don’t have the same culture as me. I was thinking that maybe I can make these type of friends through my blog. I just need people to help me spread the word around. This would be a success if we all made my big circle or group where everyone can chat about various topics and get to know each other better. I know that some people are afraid of these sort of things because how hectic the world has got so I can totally understand your way of thinking. I just want this to be a safe and fun thing to do. If you’re interested in this idea then reblog, like, or comment whatever you feel comfortable with.
Today felt like such a long day but overall I had a fun day. For my first class for today I met this girl. She was very nice and hyper lol. Honestly I was glad I had someone to talk to in this class because I didn’t want to feel so awkward. Then we did some interactive activities in the class which I enjoyed.What was even more exciting about today was I saw my old best friend from elementary school. It has been so long since I’ve seen her so when we saw each other we both hugged and was excited to see each other after such a long time. Later on for my evening class I had that one with my best friend so that was a good thing. When we first got there we waited with a small group for our teacher to come to the class. After a while we noticed that it was pass time for class to start and the teacher still didn’t show up. That’s when this girl in the group went to get one of the staff at the school and told him what was going on then he was telling us that he think our class got switch to another classroom. So the man took us to the other classroom . It was already packed with people who were also supposed to be in class. Basically we waited at the other classroom for nothing. The teacher talked for a little bit then we left early. All of my teachers seem real cool so far. Let’s pray that they don’t be a headache later on this semester.