Tired of Being the Strong Person

Sometimes you get tired of being the strong person that’s there for everyone. They seem so dependent on you to fix what they have going on. Which you don’t mind helping any way that you can but there are times when you need someone to return the favor. You have your days when you want to break down too. Sometimes you need some motivation to keep pushing through.

If you are expected to be the strong friend or person in your group it’s okay to sometimes let your circle know you need them to be there for you. Express how you feel because maybe they are not aware of what’s going on. Remember you’re the person that’s good at making things seem like they’re all together. Sure, you don’t try to put on a fake persona that everything is perfect. You may just give out that vibe that you’re fine majority of the time.

Most people forget that the strong friend, cousin, mother, father… etc need people to lean on too. They carry on the weight of their problems plus other problems too. It’s like they’re the superhero that’s expected to save everyone and put their own personal needs to the side. Sometimes they need someone to cater to them. Like I said earlier return the favor back to them. Especially if they always are there for you through your tough times.

If you know someone that’s around you that seems to be fine all the time. Try to check up on them and make sure they are actually doing good. Even though they might not always tell you that something may be going on with them. Deep down inside they will appreciate you checking up on them or even tell you that they appreciate you for asking how they are doing. Showing that you care can go a long way trust me.

Do you have any stories to tell about a strong person in your life? Or are you the person that’s expected to be strong all the time? Share your thoughts in the comment section.

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Check on Your Close Friends and Family

As we get older and have responsibilities. We are constantly busy. Every week we follow the same routine. Also, as time goes by we lose track of checking on close family and friends. It’s important to start making check-up calls. Let’s not allow a busy life a busy life to get in the way. You must cherish every little moment with everyone who carries a special place in your heart.

Another reason it’s important to check up on friends and family because they might be going through something. You can reach out to them to remind them you’re still by their side through anything. Give them full of comfort. Sometimes as a person, it’s not always necessary for us to tell someone something is wrong. There are times when you need someone to ask if you’re okay without you telling them your problems first. Keep that in mind.

Just think about how much of a difference it would make if you stayed in contact with everyone on a regular. Your bond with them will get stronger. There will be no awkward vibes when y’all are at events together. You’ll be aware of what’s going on in everyone’s life. As you think about those situations you start to get my point.

I don’t want anyone feeling guilt or regret when someone close to them dies. Then they think about all the times they should have called to check up on them. That weighs heavy on someone’s heart. Every time when you think about your close friends and family take the time out of your day to call or text them. I’m sure it will make them feel special if you tell them you were on their mind. Remember don’t let a busy life make you forget about the ones you care about.

© Reflection of Des 2017

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Definition of a Best Friend 

Talk to me on a regular 

Someone I can call during a tough time

Find time to check on me even if they are busy

Make plans to hang out often

Being trustworthy 

Never turn fake or switch up on me

Keep everything we talk about between us

Too bad it’s not easy to find a true friend like this….


© Reflection of Des 2017

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