Words Do Hurt People Feelings

It’s time to talk about how much words do hurt people. I know you remember that saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words don’t hurt.” This saying is not true at all. Honestly, words hurt worse than getting hurt physically. It hits you in a deep kind of way. The type of pain that never goes away. It really hits you to the core.

Especially if you hear those hurtful words from someone that you are close with. Those people know the wrong words to say at the wrong time. I feel like if a person says something that makes you upset in an emotional way. Then you should keep your distance away from there. Most of the time they say comments to hurt your feelings because that’s their intentions anyway. They want to see you upset or have a downfall. Also, it’s best to keep your distance if you express to them that what they say hurts you and they ignore what you told them.  

Not everyone takes what a person says lightly. That’s why you should watch what you say to people. Even if a person doesn’t show you they feel some type of way about certain things you might’ve said to them. You can still feel a weird vibe between the two of you if you are around them or whenever you communicate with them. You never know what a person is going through. What you say to them might trigger them to spazz out or even worse commit suicide or at least try to. Not everyone is mentally stable to handle certain things. If you have sense enough to know that what you may say to a person won’t be nice. Then you should keep it to yourself. It’s nothing wrong with speaking your mind. You just need to learn how to speak your mind in a respectful way. 

Share your opinion on how words hurt people feelings. Do you consider the person sensitive? If you had an experience with someone hurting your feelings by what they said to you share your story. That’s if you don’t mind telling it. 

Click here to listen to my podcast episode “Words Do Hurt.” I go into even more details on how words hurt a person feelings. 

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How to Manifest a Good Life

It’s time for you to start manifesting a positive or good life. You deserve to live a life full of happiness. I’m going to give you a couple of tips on how to manifest the life you want to live.

How to Start

When you want to manifest things into your life. First, you must get yourself mentally prepared. Clear your head, start meditating, or do anything that’s going to open your mind to new things. Because you will have to get into the routine of thinking positive and speaking things into existence. Any time you want something in life you have to claim it like you already have it. That’s the key to bringing whatever you’re wishing for to enter your life. Plus, you must have some type of faith or belief in it also. One day take a moment to think and write down a list of items or things you want.

For example, you can write down something like I want a new car, a new house, a baby, lose weight, and a job promotion. Those are just a couple of things. After you write your draft find a notebook or journal that you will only use to write about things you are manifesting. When you find the perfect little book, you want to write in. Open up the book put the date in the top right corner or where ever you prefer. Start writing your first entry. When you start writing make sure you’re writing it in the present tense. Let’s say you want to write down you want a new car. Write the sentence like “I have a new blue 2018 Toyota Corolla.” Write the sentences like you already have the item or the event is happening in your life.

Speak it in Existence 

This tricks your mind into thinking that you have it. As you keep writing every day what you want to have. You will eventually start seeing how your life will change for the better. You must get yourself in the habit of writing what you want at least every day, thinking positive, and having faith.

Also, another thing you need to do is when you are speaking about your problems aloud avoid saying negative things like “I am so broke.” Try rephrasing that sentence and say “I will have more money coming soon” or anything that will prevent you from saying you’re broke. Breaking the habit of saying words like can’t, won’t, never… etc. is tough trust me I know exactly how hard it is. Then I remind myself I have to speak positive words aloud to keep positivity around me. Anyways, like I was saying to break the habit of speaking negative words aloud.

Another thing you need to know is when you are manifesting things into your life keep it a secret to yourself. Don’t share it with anyone else. The reason I tell you that is because you could confide in a friend or family member about what you want to manifest, and they try to pretend to be happy for you in your face. Behind closed doors or in their head they could be wishing for your downfall. You don’t want their negative thinking or thoughts aloud to affect what you have going on. Also, make sure the journal you’re writing is in a good hiding spot. Put it in a place where no one can find it and read what you wrote. It’s your private journal.

My challenge for you is to practice what I taught you in this article. Is this your first time hearing about manifesting something? If not, explain your story about manifesting what you want in life.

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Tips on How To Support Others

Showing support towards others shouldn’t be as hard as most people try to make it seem. Some people would rather see someone struggle instead of helping out at least a little bit. I guess society has most people scared to show genuine support towards another person because you’re helping “competition.” Why can’t everybody win and help each other out? Hopefully, the tips that are shared in this article will motivate you to start supporting others more. 

Show your Support

Share a person post on social media: Whenever you see someone asking for support or help on social media see what you can do to help them. Most of the time a person will ask you to share or simply like their post. Try sharing and liking their post even if you’re not interested in what they are posting maybe your followers are though. The only time you shouldn’t worry about sharing their post is if it’s something illegal, inappropriate, or something you’re against. It’s not hard at all to share a post. You share everything else on your timeline anyway!

Show Interest in their content or product: If you like a product or content someone post make sure you bring it to their attention that you like what they are posting. That can help them keep sharing stuff you like. Also, they will appreciate your support. Your support can make a positive effect on a person. 

Show support and you will get support back: Have you ever noticed once you show support towards others they will do the same to you? Sometimes you should make the first move to get yourself noticed. Once you catch the person attention then they will automatically go to your profile and see what you’re all about. Basically, you get yourself some exposure through socializing on social media or maybe even talking in person because they may be interested in what you’re doing.

Let’s start supporting others more. I challenge you to share one of your Facebook friends, IG, or Twitter followers post if they are trying to promote their business products, website content, or party etc… Your one or more shares can make a difference. Before you go answer this question why do you think people make it difficult to show support to others?

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Time to Love Yourself

Love Yourself

It’s time to put yourself first. Why are you holding yourself back? You deserve to be loved. Your 1st love has to be yourself. Falling in love with yourself is the sweetest love you will experience. No one else love can compare to the love you have for yourself. It’s true when they say you must learn how to love yourself before you love someone else.

Self-love will bring you happiness, confidence, and high self-esteem. Your inner beauty will overshadow your external beauty. You will grow a new level of respect for yourself also. Your strength will overpower any weakness you had. Don’t be afraid to start loving yourself NOW! There is never a wrong time to start doing it. Take advantage of the time you have alone. Learn about every little piece of yourself. You are a beautiful person and don’t forget that! 

If you made it to this point of the article it was meant for you to read this. Maybe this topic has been on your mind lately and you didn’t know how or when to start. Well, now you have your confirmation. Loving yourself is the best thing that will ever happen to you! 

How do you feel about loving yourself? Do you think that self-love is healthy and important? If you started your self-love journey already share your experience.

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5 Ways to Deal With a Nightmare

Nightmares come and go when they feel like it. The worst part about it is the fact we can’t control when it happens. It leaves us waking up in fear and not wanting to fall back to sleep. In this article, you will read a few tips that may help you if you are having nightmares.

Remind yourself it’s not real: Dreams can feel so real especially nightmares. It’s important for us to try to remind yourself in the dream that it’s not real. That reminder can calm you down a bit in your nightmare.

Pray: This is a tip you don’t have to do if you don’t want to. From my experience, I prayed to God to get me out of some of my nightmares and I woke up out of the bad dream. Once I start doing that it amazed me how prayer actually worked. It may some crazy to you but trust me it worked.

Don’t eat junk food: This is one of the most common tips. In case you didn’t know eating junk food before bed can cause nightmares. It may sound weird but it’s true. Crazy how food can affect how we dream. Just like any food can affect our mood. I believe it may be a myth though. Here are articles about junk food causing bad dreams:

Do Certain Foods Really Cause Bad Dreams?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dream-factory/201501/do-certain-foods-really-cause-bad-dreams

17 Foods that Cause Bad Dreams

https://www.eatthis.com/foods-bad-dreams/

6 Foods That Can Affect Your Dreams & Sleep

https://www.bustle.com/articles/136513-6-foods-that-can-affect-your-dreams-sleep

Use a dreamcatcher: Most people like to have dream catchers above their bed to catch their bad dreams. It’s a way of protecting you while you’re sleeping. Indians were a firm believer of the dream catchers. Even though I have one I never experience it taking away my bad dreams. Everyone is different though. You still should try it out.

Sleep with a Bible: If you carry a Bible with you then you should sleep with it under your pillow. My grandmother told me how she use to put her Bible under her pillow to keep her safe. I always thought it was clever.

After reading this article, I hope you find some tips that will work out for you. If you do try some of the tips share your experience in the comment section. What are your thoughts on nightmares?

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Why a Person Grows Bitter Inside

A person doesn’t wake up one day and say “oh I will be bitter today” it’s always a story behind a bitter person. Yes, it’s hard to see past the individual bitterness but take your time to look deeper into why they act that way. One of the main reasons they may feel resentful is from some type of hurt they endure from the past or present. Not everyone is forgiving when they experience a heartbreaking situation. The happiest person in the world could go through a hurtful situation that may turn them into a bitter person. Like I mention not too long ago a hurt person grows bitter from past or present experiences.

Let’s say a woman or man went through a relationship where they loved someone wholeheartedly then their significant other cheated on them or does something to cross their loyalty. The man or woman who got crossed never got the apology they deserved or simply chose not to forgive the person who damages them. As days, months, and years went by they kept the pain buried deep in their heart or soul. When a person holds all that pain inside of course they are going to turn into a toxic human being. It’s only so much a person can hold in. Let’s not act like bitterness randomly appears out of nowhere and consume a person. There is a reason behind everything.

Now, think about this scenario a woman name Teresa came up with a business plan that would benefit everyone around the world. Teresa confides in her business partner about the plan. The business partner took her plan and took all the credit for it. Teresa wasn’t too happy about how everything took place. She felt humiliated and stupid for trusting someone with her golden plan. That was a slap in the face. Now she is stuck in a situation with seeing her ex business partner living off the luxuries of the business idea she came up with. No one ever cared about how Teresa felt. So, what do you think she did? Fought to take what was hers then when that didn’t work out she grew a grudge against everyone. That grudge led her to grow bitter inside.

Are you understanding the point I am getting at? As people, we are quick to say someone is bitter or an evil person by nature. Sometimes that is not exactly true. That one bitter person was probably once a good-hearted person until they let their emotions or past experiences take control of their life. No one wants to live a miserable life. Like I mentioned at the beginning of this article I stated, “A person doesn’t wake up one day and say, “oh I will be bitter today.” Just remind yourself to be more understanding with someone. But also, don’t let someone take advantage of you either.

Do you know someone who is bitter inside? Were you understanding with the person or you kept your distance away from them? If you don’t know anyone like this can you answer this question at one point were you bitter inside from a past situation? Feel free to share your story or thoughts in the comment section.

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Things You Should Blog About

Before you start reading deeper into this article. I’m not going to give you some bullshit advice (excuse my language). It’s not going to sound cliché either. So, let’s get right into it.

One thing you need to remind yourself is that YOU are in control of what goes on. This is YOUR blog not anybody else stuff.  You can post anything that you choose. Don’t over worry yourself about having a certain “niche” to focus on. I believe that is most of our problem. We get caught up in trying to focus on some certain criteria. It takes away from our creativity and holds us back on expressing how we feel. You will always find yourself thinking “are my readers or subscribers going to like this?” Will they stop reading my content because it’s not what they are expecting to read on my blog? That’s one thing you shouldn’t pressure yourself to worry about.

Normally when you read advice about what should your blog be about. Every person mentions a “niche.” Yeah, a niche is cool to think about and everything but honestly, in my opinion, it’s not too important. Of course, you want people to understand what your website is all about. I completely get that point. Eventually, they will understand what you’re all about. Just go with the flow of things.

When you are first starting out with blogging just create anything that comes to mind. It doesn’t matter one day you’re talking about painting a portrait then the next day you post about walking a dog. As long as it represents topics you enjoy writing about that is all that matters. The main goal of a blog is to write what you are passionate about right? That is why they create certain categories to place things in.

Instead of labeling yourself as a beauty, travel, or fashion blogger. Think of your blog as a simple lifestyle blog. Calling yourself a lifestyle blogger can give you a chance at being versatile on your site. If you are not cool with that like I said before it is YOUR blog. Do whatever you want.

The point I am getting at is when you are in control to bring your creativity to the light. Stop letting minor things hold you back. Especially, if you want to create your own blog. Blogging is a way to express yourself through writing and sharing it with the world. When you stay in tune with being yourself. It will shape your site into the most unique piece of work you ever put together.

If you read this article to the end. What are some challenges do you expect to face when creating blog content? Are you worried your blog won’t be good enough? Share your thoughts in the comment section. If you are already a blogger share some more advice to other bloggers.

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Forcing Toxic Relationships

Forcing a toxic relationship becomes a problem when you want to stay knowing that it’s not healthy for you. You need to accept the fact your ex doesn’t want to be with you. Why trap yourself with someone who doesn’t love you? If you stay more than likely they will keep cheating on you. Make your life miserable and distant themselves further away from you. You get what I’m saying?

Just because you are deeply in love with someone or want them to stay in your life forever doesn’t mean they are “the one for you.” It hurts to think about it that way, but you must accept it. If you choose not to accept the truth. Then go ahead and enjoy your miserable life. That’s all you’re going to get out of the relationship you are trying to force.

How many times do you want to get your heart-broken before you finally get it? Yes, I know leaving isn’t easy.  You must fight your weak heart and pull yourself out of the toxic relationship. Staying strong is the only way to get through it. Avoid picking up your phone to text or answer their calls. Block their number and block them on social media. Go out for a little while to have fun and clear your mind. Keep yourself busy with one of your favorite hobbies. You can even try to get a new hobby.

The point I’m trying to make is stop forcing yourself to be with someone who doesn’t love you back. You’re only hurting yourself. Let that toxic relationship GOOOOO! I know love can make you blind but damn how foolish can you be? If something isn’t meant to be it will NEVER work out. Take this piece of advice and start doing what’s best for you.

So, tell me have you ever went through a breakup you never thought you would get out of? If so, share your story in the comment section. I would love to read your story. It may help someone else out.

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Rushing into Relationships Isn’t Always a Good Idea

Rushing into relationships isn’t always a good idea. You didn’t take the time to learn the other person’s personality. Did you even figure out what you want out of a relationship before you rushed in one? Maybe you did, and everything worked out fine.

Let’s think about the bad outcome like things didn’t work out. For the first month, you’re in heaven and in love with your partner. Then during the next month, you see how rocky things start to get. The both of you seem to argue about everything under the sun. Your “puppy love” turns into hate towards each other. Everything you planned with the person erases from your mind.

After a while, you start to doubt rushing to get into a relationship with them. You’re even embarrassed that you proved everyone right that told you not to rush things. Relationships aren’t supposed to be rushed. In the beginning, it’s fine to take your time with the person you like. That’s what they have the “talking stage” for.

Give yourself time to enjoy the person before you get fully committed to them. This is the time to chill. The point I’m trying to make is if you’re rushing a relationship with someone. It probably won’t work out. Life is about going with the flow of things. If fate wants you with the person you have feelings for. Then you will end up in a relationship with them.

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Best Places to Read

Sometimes it’s hard to find the perfect place to read. Most places are so noisy and full of distractions. No one likes to get distracted from a good book right? You’ll read about the best places to read.

Library: The library probably was your first thought also. It’s the perfect place to read because the rules strictly enforce for everyone to be quiet in the building. Another good thing about being at the library to read is that you can stay there for hours.

Bookstore: Even though people come in and out of the bookstore. They have areas where you can relax and read your book. It’s similar to a library, but not as quiet though.

Park: You can always find a quiet and secret spot at a park. There are always benches around so you can sit and chill while you read your book. Even though the park is full of people you still can find a spot to get some peace of quiet to read.

Quiet Room at Home: Take advantage of the quiet time you have at your house. Your room is probably the best place in the house to read a good book. If not, you still have the living room or any other extra room.

On a beach: Hearing the ocean waves and cool breeze will put you in a relaxing mood to read a good book. Make sure you’re not too close to the water though. You wouldn’t want the waves to come wet your spot lol.

After reading this article now it’s easier for you to find a good place to read. Have you read at any of these places before? If so, tell me about your experience. Also, if you have any other places in mind that I didn’t mention feel free to share it in the comment section.

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