5 Ways to Deal With a Nightmare

Nightmares come and go when they feel like it. The worst part about it is the fact we can’t control when it happens. It leaves us waking up in fear and not wanting to fall back to sleep. In this article, you will read a few tips that may help you if you are having nightmares.

Remind yourself it’s not real: Dreams can feel so real especially nightmares. It’s important for us to try to remind yourself in the dream that it’s not real. That reminder can calm you down a bit in your nightmare.

Pray: This is a tip you don’t have to do if you don’t want to. From my experience, I prayed to God to get me out of some of my nightmares and I woke up out of the bad dream. Once I start doing that it amazed me how prayer actually worked. It may some crazy to you but trust me it worked.

Don’t eat junk food: This is one of the most common tips. In case you didn’t know eating junk food before bed can cause nightmares. It may sound weird but it’s true. Crazy how food can affect how we dream. Just like any food can affect our mood. I believe it may be a myth though. Here are articles about junk food causing bad dreams:

Do Certain Foods Really Cause Bad Dreams?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dream-factory/201501/do-certain-foods-really-cause-bad-dreams

17 Foods that Cause Bad Dreams

https://www.eatthis.com/foods-bad-dreams/

6 Foods That Can Affect Your Dreams & Sleep

https://www.bustle.com/articles/136513-6-foods-that-can-affect-your-dreams-sleep

Use a dreamcatcher: Most people like to have dream catchers above their bed to catch their bad dreams. It’s a way of protecting you while you’re sleeping. Indians were a firm believer of the dream catchers. Even though I have one I never experience it taking away my bad dreams. Everyone is different though. You still should try it out.

Sleep with a Bible: If you carry a Bible with you then you should sleep with it under your pillow. My grandmother told me how she use to put her Bible under her pillow to keep her safe. I always thought it was clever.

After reading this article, I hope you find some tips that will work out for you. If you do try some of the tips share your experience in the comment section. What are your thoughts on nightmares?

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Your True Intentions

Deep-rooted pain

With you, I feel so ashamed

Low self-esteem surrounds me like bees swarm around honey

Insecurity is what I am accustomed to

Sex didn’t make you stay

Fake love is what you portray

You never wanted to stay

Your true intentions showed that day

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Violence in America

Every time I look at the news or get on social media I see some type of new crime happening. Mainly the crime consist of someone is getting shot. Innocent people are getting killed. It’s a shame that the country who is supposed to be united is getting torn apart by violence itself. America is turning into a place you would less likely want to be at this point. It shouldn’t be this way. No one should have to live in fear because the majority of America is inhumane. THE VIOLENCE HAS TO STOP!

People here always want to talk about how disgusted or sad they are about the violence but still don’t do anything about it. Obviously, some of them don’t care as much as they say. Then again individuals have their own ways of making a positive change in the world. Thank God for the people who do take action. We still need more people who stand up against the violence and isn’t afraid to speak up. We have been quiet for too long.

AREN’T YOU TIRED OF IT?

How long is it going to take to open people eyes to realize that gun violence itself is a huge problem. Everyone wants it for protection which I understand that point of view. The only thing about having a gun is the group of individuals who use it for the wrong reasons and take advantage of it. Aren’t you tired of seeing innocent people dying? Or worrying about if your LOVED ONES or YOU are going to live to see another day. This is truly sickening to the stomach. Sometimes I believe it is good that the majority of us get to see how cruel the world is. This is a way to spark someone to do better and make a change.

Then we have the bad side of certain people viewing the violence. You know we live in a monkey see and monkey do (copy what others are doing) type of world. They love copying the negative but slow on trying to copy positive actions.

You see it’s a back and forth situation with the violence because everyone processes it differently. I hope people will come together more to stop the chaos that’s going on. It shouldn’t have got this bad anyway. What’s your thoughts of the violence in America or in the world in general? Do you constantly worry what’s going to happen next? Do you believe there will be a change in the near future? No thoughts or opinions are off limits. Remember to be respectful to others if you do share your opinions though.

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If Only the World Was Like This

If only we can all live in happiness

No hatred

Peace everywhere

People die without tragic deaths

Things happen but not to the extreme

Imagine a world like that

Sounds too good to be true right?

It’s never too late to make a change

Let’s create less pain…

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Urban Fiction Books You Should Read

Finding urban fiction books are tough if you don’t know any good authors or bookstores who sell those type of books. Even when I was younger it was hard for me to find books by black authors. When I finally discover where to get urban fiction books it felt like heaven. In this article, I will list good urban fiction books you should read. All the books I list are books I read before.

That Girl is Poison by Tia Hines – Desiree Jones was abandoned by her mother. She had to stay with her uncle and his abusive wife. Everything gets worse when she gets involved with this dude name Malik who leaves her pregnant and with HIV. Check out the book review I did on this book. Amazon price: $14.95 USD (paperback) $4.99 USD (Kindle price) 

The People vs. Cashmere by Karen Williams – Family tragedy happens which leads Carmen and Cashmere to live with their hateful aunt. To survive the sisters turn to drugs and prostitution. Carmen starts to get jealous when their pimp falls in love with her sister Cashmere which led to crazy events to happen. Amazon price: $6.99 USD 

Moth to a Flame by Ashley Antoinette – Raven’s dad is over the drug trade. He tries to keep her away from the street life but she falls in love with a stickup kid name Mizan who wants a come up. This book is really good. I believe I cried when I read it too 😂. It had drama you would’ve never seen coming. Amazon price: $3.99 USD

Mina’s Joint by Keisha Ervin – Mina gets out of the hood and is engaged to the Mayor’s son in her city. Everything seems perfect but things are not what they seem. Her life goes downhill when her childhood crush Victor Gonzalez comes back into her life. This book took so many twists and turns I wasn’t expecting at all. If you enjoy this book then you can read part 2. I haven’t read part 2 yet.  Amazon Price: $7.26 or $6.99 USD (the two cheapest prices I saw) 

Home Wrecker by Dwayne S. Joseph Lisette is a beautiful woman who works at a elite firm as the head fashion designer. One day her co worker Marlene comes to Lisette about a business deal that will make her wealthy. The business deal is to set up Steve (Marlene’s husband) to expose him as a cheater. While working her regular 9 to 5 job Lisette starts getting paid to ruin marriages as a Home Wrecker. Everything is going well until a strange caller threatens her life. I am just going to say this everyone got what they deserved in this book. Click here to read my review on the book. Amazon price: $6.99 USD 

Full Circle by Ayana Ellis: Carin is a young girl who was a stick-up kid with dangerous thugs in Brooklyn, NY. Then her lifestyle changes when she meets Monty. He is the guy who knocked her off her feet. Monty is an influential man in the streets of Brooklyn. Everything is going well between him and Carin until their relationships turn abusive and came with other hellish events. Man if I am not mistaken I cried when I read this book. It’s a thick book but worth reading. Amazon Price: $6.99 USD 

Diary of a Street Diva by Ashley Antoinette & JaQuavis Coleman: This book is truly a page-turner. It’s about the wife of a hustler name Caesar dying from a fatal gunshot. He has to go on trial for her murder. On the morning of the trial, he discovers her diary that holds hidden secrets of her past he never knew about. Amazon Price: $5.26 USD

The Prada Plan by Ashley Antoinette: This was the first urban fiction book I read. After I read this book I got hooked on the book genre. To be honest, this might be one of the wildest books I ever read. The story is about a girl name Diaysa Morgan who falls in love with a guy name Indie and tries to hide her treacherous lifestyle. The lifestyle is filled with drugs and prostitution. This book has a whole series. I didn’t get to finish the whole series though. Amazon price: $5.99 USD

After reading this article I hope you go and check out the books. Let me know if you want a part two of urban fiction books you should read. If you have read any of these books tell me in the comment section. Have you ever read urban fiction books before? Also, before you go I will list stores where you can buy urban fiction books.

List of Stores

Walmart (in the book department in the African American section)

Thriftbooks (randomly search up an urban fiction author then click on a book buy them then you should get other suggestions of other urban fiction books)

Amazon

Barnes & Noble (have to find the books by the author name. You may have to write down a list of authors before you go in the store unless you have specific books you are looking for)

Books- a- Million (they used to have an African American section like Walmart but I believe they got rid of it. So, just find the books by the title or author)

If I find more stores I will update this list. I only list the stores I purchase books from.

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Why a Person Grows Bitter Inside

A person doesn’t wake up one day and say “oh I will be bitter today” it’s always a story behind a bitter person. Yes, it’s hard to see past the individual bitterness but take your time to look deeper into why they act that way. One of the main reasons they may feel resentful is from some type of hurt they endure from the past or present. Not everyone is forgiving when they experience a heartbreaking situation. The happiest person in the world could go through a hurtful situation that may turn them into a bitter person. Like I mention not too long ago a hurt person grows bitter from past or present experiences.

Let’s say a woman or man went through a relationship where they loved someone wholeheartedly then their significant other cheated on them or does something to cross their loyalty. The man or woman who got crossed never got the apology they deserved or simply chose not to forgive the person who damages them. As days, months, and years went by they kept the pain buried deep in their heart or soul. When a person holds all that pain inside of course they are going to turn into a toxic human being. It’s only so much a person can hold in. Let’s not act like bitterness randomly appears out of nowhere and consume a person. There is a reason behind everything.

Now, think about this scenario a woman name Teresa came up with a business plan that would benefit everyone around the world. Teresa confides in her business partner about the plan. The business partner took her plan and took all the credit for it. Teresa wasn’t too happy about how everything took place. She felt humiliated and stupid for trusting someone with her golden plan. That was a slap in the face. Now she is stuck in a situation with seeing her ex business partner living off the luxuries of the business idea she came up with. No one ever cared about how Teresa felt. So, what do you think she did? Fought to take what was hers then when that didn’t work out she grew a grudge against everyone. That grudge led her to grow bitter inside.

Are you understanding the point I am getting at? As people, we are quick to say someone is bitter or an evil person by nature. Sometimes that is not exactly true. That one bitter person was probably once a good-hearted person until they let their emotions or past experiences take control of their life. No one wants to live a miserable life. Like I mentioned at the beginning of this article I stated, “A person doesn’t wake up one day and say, “oh I will be bitter today.” Just remind yourself to be more understanding with someone. But also, don’t let someone take advantage of you either.

Do you know someone who is bitter inside? Were you understanding with the person or you kept your distance away from them? If you don’t know anyone like this can you answer this question at one point were you bitter inside from a past situation? Feel free to share your story or thoughts in the comment section.

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Far Away From Home

People stare

They view me as a monster

Far away from home

No family

Surrounded by strangers

I’m the one in danger

Kidnap from the only place I knew

Finding my way back doesn’t exist

Temptation came to me

Now I have to survive in this unknown world

Far away from home…

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Memories We Share

Memories

We share so many…

The pictures show our happy moments

Our messages show arguments, jokes, and sweet paragraphs

Even the anniversaries & surprises crept into my thoughts

Every thought of you stays on my mind

Wishing the memories would fade

But they stay on my mind like a permanent stain

Memories…

Letting you go created more chaos

The truth didn’t set us free

Now I am stuck with the memories wishing we were meant to be

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Your Love & Lies…

Suffocated with your lies

Knowing the truth but my heart wants to deny

The love I have for you causes me to be so blind

Why can’t I leave you behind?

Loving you is convenient

But leaving you is heartbreaking…

The repeat of the hurt triggers me to hurt you back

I want you to feel the pain too

Early karma needs to come back to you…

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Women Provoke Men to Do Crazy Things

One thing that annoys me is the women who provoke men then play the victim when the man does something crazy to them. I have no respect for you if you are this type of woman. Especially, if it is a man or person who doesn’t deserve to be in a situation like this anyway. This is a message for those type of women STOP PLOTTING TO DO STUFF LIKE THIS. It’s not cute at all. One day, something crazy will happen to you then no one will believe you because all you do is cry wolf.

So, I am scrolling through my timeline on IG I see one of my followers post a screenshot of a message they got on Facebook messenger. Basically, the person on the message was telling my follower to stop reacting to their post, their tired of the bs, and my follower better be careful before they have to bury their kid. Now that last part of the message threw me off guard. Honestly, I took the threat seriously and it wasn’t directed towards me. People love talking reckless on social media it’s crazy.

Anyways, so after I read the screenshot I then read the caption of the picture. My follower started saying “the moment you don’t want to be with someone anymore and you react to the stuff they post on your wall and they inbox you this.” Then my follower proceeds to say that the person who message them is desperate and have nothing going for them self. Alright, so that was what my follower said. The person name got tagged in the IG post too.

The problem I have with this situation is the fact she intentionally tried to bother her ex-boyfriend. If you so call don’t want him then why are you taking your time to get some type of attention from him. Since I am being honest about the situation I feel like she is embarrassing herself more than embarrassing the man. Think about this if she didn’t react to any of man posts then he probably wouldn’t have sent her that crazy message. Even though I don’t know both of them personally I am just commenting on what I saw on social media. Seems like my follower is drama filled anyway.

The whole point of this article is the fact that most women do certain things intentionally to provoke men. Once the man does or says something bizarre to the woman then she wants to play like a victim. I can’t stand when any female does that. I swear they take advantage of the whole fact they are a woman and can technically get away with the situation. If you are going to bother a man or a person in general to the point you provoke them to do something crazy. Be ready for the person to spazz out on you!

For the women who love provoking men please stop it because you knew exactly what you were trying to do. You want the man to act crazy, so you can make him look like a bad person and take things to the extreme. If you get offended by this then you are probably a person who does stuff like this.

No, I am not saying a man or anyone, in general, should put their hands on a woman or do anything else crazy. I am saying if you keep bothering a person and hitting that nerve where they want to spazz out then don’t be surprised when they turn deranged. Every action gets a reaction. Watch how you do certain things. You are a foul person anyway if you do something evil then put the blame on someone else.

So, you made it to the end of this article I want to know your thoughts on this topic. Yeah, I may have started up a debate… oh well someone had to speak up about this. Do you think SOME women provoke men in situations? Have you ever been in a position where someone provokes you to do something out of your character? Let’s have a discussion in the comment section.

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