Open Letter #5: Bashing Me Won’t Make Your Life Better

It’s funny how a person or people will bash you when you no longer want to deal with them. They will run your name in the ground to make you seem like the most horrible person in the world. What they fail to mention is the REAL reason why both of you are no longer communicating. Somehow the truth goes missing when they want to tell everyone how “bad” you are.

Maybe at one point, you wanted a chance to explain yourself and defend your character. After you did some deep thinking you realize it’s not even worth it. You had to remind yourself that everything that was said about you is a lie anyway. People always going to assume what they want regardless.

They lied on me

I’ve had a person who told so many lies on me it’s a shame. When I saw and heard about it I was upset of course. Then I told myself not to feed into that negativity. I know what type of person I am. They were mad because I didn’t want to be with them plus I know for a fact the person let other people get in their head. Karma will come for the liar. I’ll continue to live my best life while they sit there miserable. I guess lying on me would make them look more like a victim than the bad person they try to make me out to be.

I Wasn’t Perfect but…

I’ll admit I wasn’t perfect all the time when I was with the person. One thing for sure I tried my best to be there for them, treat them with the most respect and give the love they needed in a healthy way. For them to come on social media to bash me with lies made me lose so much respect for them. Then it reminded me why I stop talking to this person in the first place.

This is how I feel about the whole situation if you’re going to bash me make sure you tell the real truth. Stop trying to tell a half-ass story. Good thing I stop letting the drama get to me. I can’t stand a person who bashes you after the two of you have a falling out. More than likely if they were quick to say bullshit about you after y’all part ways. Then they felt that way for a long time. Remember this though a person true colors start to show when a misunderstanding or conflict happens between the two of you.

Like I mentioned earlier I wasn’t always perfect in my situation but I don’t deserve to get talked bad about either. Especially when I know the lies were not true at all. I’m the type of person to admit when I’m wrong anyway and don’t have a problem with being honest even if it makes me look bad. Thank God I no longer have that individual in my life anymore.

Have you ever been in a situation where someone talked bad about you after you stop communicating with them? Share your story in the comment section.

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2 Replies to “Open Letter #5: Bashing Me Won’t Make Your Life Better”

  1. This has happened to me with an ex best friend. She spread so many different rumours and gossip, even trying to go after the guy I liked. At first I was really mad because I think it’s a natural reaction to want to defend yourself. But after a while I realised there’s no point and it’s wasted energy. I think it’s great you walked away and stopped communication. 🙂

    1. reflectionofdes says: Reply

      Oh wow I know that was a hurtful situation. I’m glad you were able to get through it. Thank you now life is better without that person.

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