Is Cheating Acceptable? (Podcast Episode Included)

Nowadays people make it seem like cheating is normal. That’s not cool at all. What happened to taking relationships seriously? Nobody wants to have real love. They want to be in relationships just to say they have a companion. It’s hard to find someone who practices old school love.

Most people think it’s fun and okay to have someone on the side whether it’s a male or female. They don’t care at all. Having the best of both worlds is only on their mind.

Listen to my podcast episode to hear more about what I have to say about cheating being acceptable.

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Start Living for Yourself

There is a point in your life when you must start living for yourself. When I say start living for yourself I mean making yourself happy and not letting anyone or anything get in the way of your happiness.

You have to break old bad habits. Explore new opportunities or hobbies. Figuring out how to make yourself happy first. Your opinion about yourself matters the most. Remember you are your biggest critic.

That’s why you need to make the effort to make yourself happy. Happiness is the key to living a comfortable life. Opening up that gate of happiness will give you a lifetime full of satisfaction. You won’t have many regrets, unlike the person who didn’t take the risk of finding their true happiness.

Another thing you will start noticing is your self-worth or value. That’s when you know you don’t deserve to deal with BS. There will be something inside you that puts you on a high level of confidence.

Just remember it’s nothing wrong with being selfish about your wants and needs. Even if it’s something out of the ordinary it shouldn’t stop you from doing it. Start living for yourself. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone else. You are in control of your own life.



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Words Do Hurt People Feelings

It’s time to talk about how much words do hurt people. I know you remember that saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words don’t hurt.” This saying is not true at all. Honestly, words hurt worse than getting hurt physically. It hits you in a deep kind of way. The type of pain that never goes away. It really hits you to the core.

Especially if you hear those hurtful words from someone that you are close with. Those people know the wrong words to say at the wrong time. I feel like if a person says something that makes you upset in an emotional way. Then you should keep your distance away from there. Most of the time they say comments to hurt your feelings because that’s their intentions anyway. They want to see you upset or have a downfall. Also, it’s best to keep your distance if you express to them that what they say hurts you and they ignore what you told them.

Not everyone takes what a person says lightly. That’s why you should watch what you say to people. Even if a person doesn’t show you they feel some type of way about certain things you might’ve said to them. You can still feel a weird vibe between the two of you if you are around them or whenever you communicate with them. You never know what a person is going through. What you say to them might trigger them to spazz out or even worse commit suicide or at least try to. Not everyone is mentally stable to handle certain things. If you have sense enough to know that what you may say to a person won’t be nice. Then you should keep it to yourself. It’s nothing wrong with speaking your mind. You just need to learn how to speak your mind in a respectful way.

Share your opinion on how words hurt people feelings. Do you consider the person sensitive? If you had an experience with someone hurting your feelings by what they said to you share your story. That’s if you don’t mind telling it.

Click here to listen to my podcast episode “Words Do Hurt.” I go into even more details on how words hurt a person feelings.

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4 Places You Can Buy Cheap Books From

Finding the perfect store to buy cheap books is difficult if you don’t know where to go. Even though books are not cheap at all. It’s still nice to find some place where to can buy books in your price range. Hopefully, the stores that are listed below become your favorite place to shop for books.

1) Goodwill: If you have this thrift store in your town and city stop by and take a look in the store. They have a good variety of used books. Recently, I went to my local Goodwill store to find some books. The books I bought were very cheap and in good condition. I got 5 books for $4.97 USD. Man, when I walked out that store I felt so good. Imagine if I went to Barnes and Noble. I probably would’ve spent $100 or more on 5 books.

2) Thriftbooks: I have ordered from their website twice. One night I was on YouTube and I discover their site. I was so hyped about it. I felt like I hit the jackpot. Anyways, they are an online site that sells new and used books. You can find any book you can imagine on their site. You only have to spend at least $10 to get free shipping. That’s a deal right there. Most of the book prices start from $3.79 on up. On my first order of books I bought from them I got 4 books for $15.86 USD. The second set of books I order from them I got 5 for books for $20.24 USD. Click here to check out

3) Walmart: If you shop at Walmart to do grocery shopping you should stop by their book section. They update the section frequently. Usually, when I visit their book section they have books that just been released or been out for a while. Most of the time their book prices start at $5.00 or more. I’ve bought a good bit of books out of their store.

4) Dollar Tree: Sometimes this store can have a good selection of books if you’re open to reading any genre. Also, some Dollar Tree stores have a better book selection than others. Make sure you go to a good one. Usually, when I look through their books I take my time and look extra hard through them lol. I’m very picky when it comes to picking out a good book. The reason this store is on the list because their books are only $1.00 USD plus tax. The tax is only like 0.08 though. You will be surprised at what kind of books you are able to find out of there. You may see one of your favorite author books in there.

If you get a chance make sure you check out the stores that were mention in the article. Have you ever bought books from any of the stores that were mention? Do you know any more stores that sell books at a cheap price? If so, feel free to comment the store names.



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How to Manifest a Good Life

It’s time for you to start manifesting a positive or good life. You deserve to live a life full of happiness. I’m going to give you a couple of tips on how to manifest the life you want to live.

How to Start

When you want to manifest things into your life. First, you must get yourself mentally prepared. Clear your head, start meditating, or do anything that’s going to open your mind to new things. Because you will have to get into the routine of thinking positive and speaking things into existence. Any time you want something in life you have to claim it like you already have it. That’s the key to bringing whatever you’re wishing for to enter your life. Plus, you must have some type of faith or belief in it also. One day take a moment to think and write down a list of items or things you want.

For example, you can write down something like I want a new car, a new house, a baby, lose weight, and a job promotion. Those are just a couple of things. After you write your draft find a notebook or journal that you will only use to write about things you are manifesting. When you find the perfect little book, you want to write in. Open up the book put the date in the top right corner or where ever you prefer. Start writing your first entry. When you start writing make sure you’re writing it in the present tense. Let’s say you want to write down you want a new car. Write the sentence like “I have a new blue 2018 Toyota Corolla.” Write the sentences like you already have the item or the event is happening in your life.

Speak it in Existence 

This tricks your mind into thinking that you have it. As you keep writing every day what you want to have. You will eventually start seeing how your life will change for the better. You must get yourself in the habit of writing what you want at least every day, thinking positive, and having faith.

Also, another thing you need to do is when you are speaking about your problems aloud avoid saying negative things like “I am so broke.” Try rephrasing that sentence and say “I will have more money coming soon” or anything that will prevent you from saying you’re broke. Breaking the habit of saying words like can’t, won’t, never… etc. is tough trust me I know exactly how hard it is. Then I remind myself I have to speak positive words aloud to keep positivity around me. Anyways, like I was saying to break the habit of speaking negative words aloud.

Another thing you need to know is when you are manifesting things into your life keep it a secret to yourself. Don’t share it with anyone else. The reason I tell you that is because you could confide in a friend or family member about what you want to manifest, and they try to pretend to be happy for you in your face. Behind closed doors or in their head they could be wishing for your downfall. You don’t want their negative thinking or thoughts aloud to affect what you have going on. Also, make sure the journal you’re writing is in a good hiding spot. Put it in a place where no one can find it and read what you wrote. It’s your private journal.

My challenge for you is to practice what I taught you in this article. Is this your first time hearing about manifesting something? If not, explain your story about manifesting what you want in life.

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Vibes You Sense From A Person

Have you ever been in a room and felt someone vibe base on their presence? They didn’t even have to speak to you for you to know that they are a good or bad person. Some of you probably thinking “how in the world will I be able to determine that without even speaking to the person that enters the room?” Well, the best response I can tell you is that you will get certain body reactions (like facial expressions), gut feeling, or you can feel a strong presence of good or evil.

For example, two people could be mad at each other and be in a group setting with others. Everyone in the group can feel the tension between the two people who are mad at each other. It can feel like a big elephant in the room. I don’t know if some of you heard of that expression before. It basically means it’s something no one isn’t trying or wants to talk about.

I can tell y’all plenty of stories where I been to work, school, or any other places where I didn’t know certain strangers and I could tell whether or not they were a good or bad person. One thing that really catches my attention is when my whole mood change when someone comes in the area or room I am in. I could be in a very happy mood than all of a sudden I feel upset. That’s how I can tell a person has a bad vibe to them. They didn’t even have to speak to me for me to get upset about something with them. It’s weird how our intuition can alarm us.

No, I don’t want any of you to think I have any type of jealousy towards anyone that comes my way. I’m not a jealous person at all or don’t like anyone for no reason at all. I was just blessed with a gift where I can pick the good from the bad or the fake from the real. Even a person body language can tell you a lot about the person. I am not an expert on that so I won’t get deep into that.

Anyways, anyone has the ability to feel any type of vibe from a stranger or a person they know. You just have to pay attention to the way you act with the person you come across. That is a sign or signal right there.  Have you ever been in a situation where you felt a certain type of vibe from a person? Or do you know someone who had a similar experience to what I talked about in the article?

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Catching Feelings for Someone You’re Attracted To

Have you ever tried to stop yourself from liking somebody? It’s like you try to force yourself to not catch feelings for them but it happens. Even when you try not to think about that person you still have them on your mind. Each thought consistent of a future you could have with the person or how much time you want/wish you could have with them. There’s a spark in them that attracts you. Fighting your feelings is a tough battle. One thing you can’t deny is the fact that your feelings don’t lie. Deep down inside it uncovers the truth behind whatever you’re trying to hide.

Forcing yourself to not catch feelings seem impossible in a way. Sometimes it’s better to go with the flow of life. Let your feelings flow freely. If you feel bold or brave enough make your feelings known towards the person you’re attracted to. Make sure you carefully thought about how to approach the situation though. Try not to put yourself in an unnecessary situation. Figure out why you are trying to fight your attraction towards a person. Is it because of your past? Maybe you heard bad rumors about your crush. Possibly you made a vow to yourself to not fall deep for someone new but it’s not turning out how you thought it would. You see we all have our reasons to why we try to avoid catching feelings. It’s a risky circumstance to put yourself in. Especially if you have doubts about it.

It’s okay to be open about your feelings for someone special. Being open about your feelings can lead to something life changing. Just remember not to forget why you are careful about your feelings towards the person you are attracted to. Like I said earlier in the article your feelings don’t lie. If it’s obvious that the person is no good for you, please don’t pursue to make things serious with them. They are not worth losing yourself for. Be smart, happy, and accept your fate! 

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Tips on How To Support Others

Showing support towards others shouldn’t be as hard as most people try to make it seem. Some people would rather see someone struggle instead of helping out at least a little bit. I guess society has most people scared to show genuine support towards another person because you’re helping “competition.” Why can’t everybody win and help each other out? Hopefully, the tips that are shared in this article will motivate you to start supporting others more. 

Show your Support

Share a person post on social media: Whenever you see someone asking for support or help on social media see what you can do to help them. Most of the time a person will ask you to share or simply like their post. Try sharing and liking their post even if you’re not interested in what they are posting maybe your followers are though. The only time you shouldn’t worry about sharing their post is if it’s something illegal, inappropriate, or something you’re against. It’s not hard at all to share a post. You share everything else on your timeline anyway!

Show Interest in their content or product: If you like a product or content someone post make sure you bring it to their attention that you like what they are posting. That can help them keep sharing stuff you like. Also, they will appreciate your support. Your support can make a positive effect on a person. 

Show support and you will get support back: Have you ever noticed once you show support towards others they will do the same to you? Sometimes you should make the first move to get yourself noticed. Once you catch the person attention then they will automatically go to your profile and see what you’re all about. Basically, you get yourself some exposure through socializing on social media or maybe even talking in person because they may be interested in what you’re doing.

Let’s start supporting others more. I challenge you to share one of your Facebook friends, IG, or Twitter followers post if they are trying to promote their business products, website content, or party etc… Your one or more shares can make a difference. Before you go answer this question why do you think people make it difficult to show support to others?

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I Started a T-Shirt Business (Come Support Me)

Hey readers, I have some exciting news to tell you! I started my own T-shirt business. Yes, your girl Reflection of Des has her own t-shirt store. I’m happy about this new journey. This is my first time selling shirts. At one point, I was hesitant about starting this business because of money and deciding if this is something I’m serious about. After doing a lot of thinking I finally decided to put work into my new business. I am praying it grows successful.

Just in case, you’re wondering my t-shirt store consist of graphic tees with quotes on them. I have a different variety of shirts for everyone. Whether you are young, old, a man or woman etc… you will find a shirt that’s perfect for YOU! CLICK HERE TO VISIT MY ONLINE STORE. Down below is shirts I am currently selling. If you like a shirt please support me and purchase one or if you know someone who would like one share it with them. Each sell will help me produce more shirts. Also, I will be launching more shirts too!




Click on the name of the shirts to see more details about it.

Blog Your Heart Out: $13 USD (Available in the colors Black, Pink, Grey, Green, Purple, Red, Light Blue, & Burgundy)








KING Tee– $15.00 USD: (Available in the colors White, Black, Dark Green, & Dark Grey)



I’m a Baddie Tho – $16 USD (Available in the colors Blue, Purple, White, Light Purple)



Write Your Heart Out – $13 USD (Available in the colors Black, Red, Pink, Orange)

God Blessed You Hoodie – $21 USD (Available in the colors Dark blue, Red, Black, Grey, Pink)


God Blessed You T-Shirts – $15 USD (Available in the colors Black, Red, Blue, Green, Pink, Light purple)





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5 Ways to Deal With a Nightmare

Nightmares come and go when they feel like it. The worst part about it is the fact we can’t control when it happens. It leaves us waking up in fear and not wanting to fall back to sleep. In this article, you will read a few tips that may help you if you are having nightmares.

Remind yourself it’s not real: Dreams can feel so real especially nightmares. It’s important for us to try to remind yourself in the dream that it’s not real. That reminder can calm you down a bit in your nightmare.

Pray: This is a tip you don’t have to do if you don’t want to. From my experience, I prayed to God to get me out of some of my nightmares and I woke up out of the bad dream. Once I start doing that it amazed me how prayer actually worked. It may some crazy to you but trust me it worked.

Don’t eat junk food: This is one of the most common tips. In case you didn’t know eating junk food before bed can cause nightmares. It may sound weird but it’s true. Crazy how food can affect how we dream. Just like any food can affect our mood. I believe it may be a myth though. Here are articles about junk food causing bad dreams:

Do Certain Foods Really Cause Bad Dreams?

17 Foods that Cause Bad Dreams

6 Foods That Can Affect Your Dreams & Sleep

Use a dreamcatcher: Most people like to have dream catchers above their bed to catch their bad dreams. It’s a way of protecting you while you’re sleeping. Indians were a firm believer of the dream catchers. Even though I have one I never experience it taking away my bad dreams. Everyone is different though. You still should try it out.

Sleep with a Bible: If you carry a Bible with you then you should sleep with it under your pillow. My grandmother told me how she uses to put her Bible under her pillow to keep her safe. I always thought it was clever.

After reading this article, I hope you find some tips that will work out for you. If you do try some of the tips share your experience in the comment section. What are your thoughts on nightmares?

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