Words Do Hurt People Feelings

It’s time to talk about how much words do hurt people. I know you remember that saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words don’t hurt.” This saying is not true at all. Honestly, words hurt worse than getting hurt physically. It hits you in a deep kind of way. The type of pain that never goes away. It really hits you to the core.

Especially if you hear those hurtful words from someone that you are close with. Those people know the wrong words to say at the wrong time. I feel like if a person says something that makes you upset in an emotional way. Then you should keep your distance away from there. Most of the time they say comments to hurt your feelings because that’s their intentions anyway. They want to see you upset or have a downfall. Also, it’s best to keep your distance if you express to them that what they say hurts you and they ignore what you told them.  

Not everyone takes what a person says lightly. That’s why you should watch what you say to people. Even if a person doesn’t show you they feel some type of way about certain things you might’ve said to them. You can still feel a weird vibe between the two of you if you are around them or whenever you communicate with them. You never know what a person is going through. What you say to them might trigger them to spazz out or even worse commit suicide or at least try to. Not everyone is mentally stable to handle certain things. If you have sense enough to know that what you may say to a person won’t be nice. Then you should keep it to yourself. It’s nothing wrong with speaking your mind. You just need to learn how to speak your mind in a respectful way. 

Share your opinion on how words hurt people feelings. Do you consider the person sensitive? If you had an experience with someone hurting your feelings by what they said to you share your story. That’s if you don’t mind telling it. 

Click here to listen to my podcast episode “Words Do Hurt.” I go into even more details on how words hurt a person feelings. 

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Tips on How To Support Others

Showing support towards others shouldn’t be as hard as most people try to make it seem. Some people would rather see someone struggle instead of helping out at least a little bit. I guess society has most people scared to show genuine support towards another person because you’re helping “competition.” Why can’t everybody win and help each other out? Hopefully, the tips that are shared in this article will motivate you to start supporting others more. 

Show your Support

Share a person post on social media: Whenever you see someone asking for support or help on social media see what you can do to help them. Most of the time a person will ask you to share or simply like their post. Try sharing and liking their post even if you’re not interested in what they are posting maybe your followers are though. The only time you shouldn’t worry about sharing their post is if it’s something illegal, inappropriate, or something you’re against. It’s not hard at all to share a post. You share everything else on your timeline anyway!

Show Interest in their content or product: If you like a product or content someone post make sure you bring it to their attention that you like what they are posting. That can help them keep sharing stuff you like. Also, they will appreciate your support. Your support can make a positive effect on a person. 

Show support and you will get support back: Have you ever noticed once you show support towards others they will do the same to you? Sometimes you should make the first move to get yourself noticed. Once you catch the person attention then they will automatically go to your profile and see what you’re all about. Basically, you get yourself some exposure through socializing on social media or maybe even talking in person because they may be interested in what you’re doing.

Let’s start supporting others more. I challenge you to share one of your Facebook friends, IG, or Twitter followers post if they are trying to promote their business products, website content, or party etc… Your one or more shares can make a difference. Before you go answer this question why do you think people make it difficult to show support to others?

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Time to Love Yourself

Love Yourself

It’s time to put yourself first. Why are you holding yourself back? You deserve to be loved. Your 1st love has to be yourself. Falling in love with yourself is the sweetest love you will experience. No one else love can compare to the love you have for yourself. It’s true when they say you must learn how to love yourself before you love someone else.

Self-love will bring you happiness, confidence, and high self-esteem. Your inner beauty will overshadow your external beauty. You will grow a new level of respect for yourself also. Your strength will overpower any weakness you had. Don’t be afraid to start loving yourself NOW! There is never a wrong time to start doing it. Take advantage of the time you have alone. Learn about every little piece of yourself. You are a beautiful person and don’t forget that! 

If you made it to this point of the article it was meant for you to read this. Maybe this topic has been on your mind lately and you didn’t know how or when to start. Well, now you have your confirmation. Loving yourself is the best thing that will ever happen to you! 

How do you feel about loving yourself? Do you think that self-love is healthy and important? If you started your self-love journey already share your experience.

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Why a Person Grows Bitter Inside

A person doesn’t wake up one day and say “oh I will be bitter today” it’s always a story behind a bitter person. Yes, it’s hard to see past the individual bitterness but take your time to look deeper into why they act that way. One of the main reasons they may feel resentful is from some type of hurt they endure from the past or present. Not everyone is forgiving when they experience a heartbreaking situation. The happiest person in the world could go through a hurtful situation that may turn them into a bitter person. Like I mention not too long ago a hurt person grows bitter from past or present experiences.

Let’s say a woman or man went through a relationship where they loved someone wholeheartedly then their significant other cheated on them or does something to cross their loyalty. The man or woman who got crossed never got the apology they deserved or simply chose not to forgive the person who damages them. As days, months, and years went by they kept the pain buried deep in their heart or soul. When a person holds all that pain inside of course they are going to turn into a toxic human being. It’s only so much a person can hold in. Let’s not act like bitterness randomly appears out of nowhere and consume a person. There is a reason behind everything.

Now, think about this scenario a woman name Teresa came up with a business plan that would benefit everyone around the world. Teresa confides in her business partner about the plan. The business partner took her plan and took all the credit for it. Teresa wasn’t too happy about how everything took place. She felt humiliated and stupid for trusting someone with her golden plan. That was a slap in the face. Now she is stuck in a situation with seeing her ex business partner living off the luxuries of the business idea she came up with. No one ever cared about how Teresa felt. So, what do you think she did? Fought to take what was hers then when that didn’t work out she grew a grudge against everyone. That grudge led her to grow bitter inside.

Are you understanding the point I am getting at? As people, we are quick to say someone is bitter or an evil person by nature. Sometimes that is not exactly true. That one bitter person was probably once a good-hearted person until they let their emotions or past experiences take control of their life. No one wants to live a miserable life. Like I mentioned at the beginning of this article I stated, “A person doesn’t wake up one day and say, “oh I will be bitter today.” Just remind yourself to be more understanding with someone. But also, don’t let someone take advantage of you either.

Do you know someone who is bitter inside? Were you understanding with the person or you kept your distance away from them? If you don’t know anyone like this can you answer this question at one point were you bitter inside from a past situation? Feel free to share your story or thoughts in the comment section.



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Things You Should Blog About

Before you start reading deeper into this article. I’m not going to give you some bullshit advice (excuse my language). It’s not going to sound cliché either. So, let’s get right into it.

One thing you need to remind yourself is that YOU are in control of what goes on. This is YOUR blog not anybody else stuff.  You can post anything that you choose. Don’t over worry yourself about having a certain “niche” to focus on. I believe that is most of our problem. We get caught up in trying to focus on some certain criteria. It takes away from our creativity and holds us back on expressing how we feel. You will always find yourself thinking “are my readers or subscribers going to like this?” Will they stop reading my content because it’s not what they are expecting to read on my blog? That’s one thing you shouldn’t pressure yourself to worry about.

Normally when you read advice about what should your blog be about. Every person mentions a “niche.” Yeah, a niche is cool to think about and everything but honestly, in my opinion, it’s not too important. Of course, you want people to understand what your website is all about. I completely get that point. Eventually, they will understand what you’re all about. Just go with the flow of things.

When you are first starting out with blogging just create anything that comes to mind. It doesn’t matter one day you’re talking about painting a portrait then the next day you post about walking a dog. As long as it represents topics you enjoy writing about that is all that matters. The main goal of a blog is to write what you are passionate about right? That is why they create certain categories to place things in.

Instead of labeling yourself as a beauty, travel, or fashion blogger. Think of your blog as a simple lifestyle blog. Calling yourself a lifestyle blogger can give you a chance at being versatile on your site. If you are not cool with that like I said before it is YOUR blog. Do whatever you want.

The point I am getting at is when you are in control to bring your creativity to the light. Stop letting minor things hold you back. Especially, if you want to create your own blog. Blogging is a way to express yourself through writing and sharing it with the world. When you stay in tune with being yourself. It will shape your site into the most unique piece of work you ever put together.

If you read this article to the end. What are some challenges do you expect to face when creating blog content? Are you worried your blog won’t be good enough? Share your thoughts in the comment section. If you are already a blogger share some more advice to other bloggers.


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Forcing Toxic Relationships

Forcing a toxic relationship becomes a problem when you want to stay knowing that it’s not healthy for you. You need to accept the fact your ex doesn’t want to be with you. Why trap yourself with someone who doesn’t love you? If you stay more than likely they will keep cheating on you. Make your life miserable and distant themselves further away from you. You get what I’m saying?

Just because you are deeply in love with someone or want them to stay in your life forever doesn’t mean they are “the one for you.” It hurts to think about it that way, but you must accept it. If you choose not to accept the truth. Then go ahead and enjoy your miserable life. That’s all you’re going to get out of the relationship you are trying to force.

How many times do you want to get your heart-broken before you finally get it? Yes, I know leaving isn’t easy.  You must fight your weak heart and pull yourself out of the toxic relationship. Staying strong is the only way to get through it. Avoid picking up your phone to text or answer their calls. Block their number and block them on social media. Go out for a little while to have fun and clear your mind. Keep yourself busy with one of your favorite hobbies. You can even try to get a new hobby.

The point I’m trying to make is stop forcing yourself to be with someone who doesn’t love you back. You’re only hurting yourself. Let that toxic relationship GOOOOO! I know love can make you blind but damn how foolish can you be? If something isn’t meant to be it will NEVER work out. Take this piece of advice and start doing what’s best for you.

So, tell me have you ever went through a breakup you never thought you would get out of? If so, share your story in the comment section. I would love to read your story. It may help someone else out.


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15 Inspirational Quotes You’ll Love

You always need some type of inspiration. Whether it’s from your friends, family, or Google. If you’re a lover of quotes here are some of the best inspirational quotes you’ll ever read.

1) “When you have a dream, you’ve got to grab it and never let go.” – Carol Burnett

2) “Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your soul was put on this Earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come.” – Ellen DeGeneres

3) “Change your thoughts and you change your world.” – Norman Vincent Peale

4) “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” -George Eliot

5) “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” -Milton Berle

6) “Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success.” – Swami Sivananda

7) “Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne

8) “Reach for it. Push yourself as far as you can.” – Christa McAuliffe

9) “Be brave enough to live life creatively. The creative place where no one else has ever been.” – Alan Alda

10) “In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi

11) “Your big opportunity may be right where you are now.” Napoleon Hill

12) “Better to be called something positive and inspirational than something negative.” – Donnie Yen

13) “Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.” – Og Mandino

14) “Love the moment and the energy of that moment will spread beyond all boundaries.” – Corita Kent

15) “Space is an inspirational concept that allows you to dream big.” – Peter Diamandis

Inspirational quotes are always good to look back at when you need some inspiration. If you enjoyed the quotes you read. Which one is your favorite? Let me know in the comment section.


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Best Places to Read

Sometimes it’s hard to find the perfect place to read. Most places are so noisy and full of distractions. No one likes to get distracted from a good book right? You’ll read about the best places to read.

Library: The library probably was your first thought also. It’s the perfect place to read because the rules strictly enforce for everyone to be quiet in the building. Another good thing about being at the library to read is that you can stay there for hours.

Bookstore: Even though people come in and out of the bookstore. They have areas where you can relax and read your book. It’s similar to a library, but not as quiet though.

Park: You can always find a quiet and secret spot at a park. There are always benches around so you can sit and chill while you read your book. Even though the park is full of people you still can find a spot to get some peace of quiet to read.

Quiet Room at Home: Take advantage of the quiet time you have at your house. Your room is probably the best place in the house to read a good book. If not, you still have the living room or any other extra room.

On a beach: Hearing the ocean waves and cool breeze will put you in a relaxing mood to read a good book. Make sure you’re not too close to the water though. You wouldn’t want the waves to come wet your spot lol.

After reading this article now it’s easier for you to find a good place to read. Have you read at any of these places before? If so, tell me about your experience. Also, if you have any other places in mind that I didn’t mention feel free to share it in the comment section.


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Signs You’re Getting Catfished!

Many people have got catfished at least once in their lifetime. If you haven’t considered yourself lucky! Even though we live in a society where you can discover the signs easily. People still get catfished anyway. Oh yeah, if you’re not familiar with the term catfish I’ll explain it to you. Basically, catfish means a person hiding behind a fake profile. Usually, the person uses someone else pictures on their social media profile. For example, the person can easily search on google to get pictures of a stranger and post it on the fake profile they created. It’s crazy how easy it is to steal someone pictures on the internet.

Here are the signs…

Excuses to not video chat: Nowadays it’s so easy to get a cheap phone with a camera to video chat. You can even buy a cheap webcam from Amazon or your local electronics store. No one should have a problem with video chatting with someone they are interested in. Remember that tip. Yes, sometimes you may get nervous. Eventually, you would get on camera for video chatting.

Pictures look too Professional: When I say pictures look too professional. It’s those high-quality photos that you can tell when someone went to a photographer to get them done. Regular ordinary people don’t have a pile of pictures like that on their profile. Yes, of course, the iPhone 7, 8, and X have high-quality cameras, but you can still tell it came from a phone and not a digital camera. Usually, models, celebrities, and bloggers plus others post professional pictures. I’m not saying you won’t get lucky and those type of people could message you on social media. Sometimes you should look closely at certain things on a personal profile.

Always “moving”: For some reason, a catfish always say they live in one state. Then a couple of months later they live somewhere else. It’s understandable if the person is in the army and move around from place to place. Catfish people always lie about their location.

As long as the internet is still up and running people will continue to get catfished. Hopefully, the tips you read or listen to in the podcast help you watch out for a catfish. Have you ever had an experience with someone catfishing you? If so, how did you feel about it?


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How to Get Through Tough Times In Your Life

Going through a tough time in your life is challenging. You find yourself stuck in a pool of problems that seem like they will never get fixed. There are times when you contemplate about giving up on everything. Giving up is not an option for you because these are ways to help you get through tough times in your life.

1) Read motivational books – Reading a motivational book will boost you to push through your situation. It will provide you with encouraging advice that you may not hear from the people around you. The book or books will give you some type of comfort. Examples of motivational books are “I Don’t Belong to You” by Keke Palmer or “Latoya’s Life: Uncut Mishaps of a Youtube Star” by LaToya Ali.

2) Talk to positive people – You need people around you that are going to uplift you. They’re the people who you can trust with your problems. Also, they going to make sure they help you out the best way they can.

3) Pray – Whatever spiritual God you believe in. Pray about your problems to your God. Even though you may not think God is listening. His ears are always open to hearing your prayers. He’s working on a special blessing for you.

4) Take a vacation – Whether it’s going somewhere an hour away or further. A vacation will relax you. Yes, I know going out of town isn’t that simple. Especially if you don’t have a lot of money to travel or have other things to worry about. Anyways, a nice long vacation will take your mind away from your problems.

5) Face the Situation – Sometimes we must gain strength or confidence to face our tough situations. Use this power to help you fight this rough period in your life. Maybe all you needed to do is use that extra strength or confidence to solve the problems that are going on. Think about this there are times when we are our own obstacle.

Tough times don’t last forever. A strong person like you will get through your situation. One day you’ll be able to reflect on your tough times and appreciate it. Do you want to know why you’ll appreciate it? It’s because it made you become a stronger person. You’ll feel proud of yourself for not giving up. Take the time to practice this advice and see what results you’ll get.



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