TMI TAG 2018

Usually, people do the TMI tag on YouTube. I decided to do a blog post about it without a video. The TMI tag has a total of 50 questions. Don’t worry they are interesting questions and my answers won’t be too long. On the brighter side, you get to learn more about me.

1: What are you wearing? A pink shirt and leggings

2: Ever been in love? Yes, I sort of regret being in love.

3: Ever had a terrible breakup? Yes, I don’t want to get deep into it.

4: How tall are you? 5’1

5: How much do you weigh? 130 I gained a lot of weight. I used to be 108 or 110. That’s a drastic change lol.

6: Any tattoos? No, I don’t have any tattoos. They are cute but I don’t plan on getting any.

7: Any piercings? Yes, my ears are pierced.

8: OTP? Umm, are you asking am I on the phone? lol If so, no I am not on the phone.

9: Favorite Show? I’ll name a few of my favorites. They are Catfish: the tv show, Moesha, Insecure, American Horror Story. The list can go on.

10: Favorite bands? Destiny Childs

11: Something you miss? I miss having no worries about anything.

12: Favorite song? Insecure by Jazmine Sullivan ft Bryson Tiller

13: How old are you? 20 years old

14: Zodiac sign? Scorpio

15: Quality you look for in a partner? Faithful, respectful, understanding, attractive, intelligent… I know I was supposed to name one but it’s too hard just to leave one answer lol.

16: Favorite Quote? “Life Goes On”

17: Favorite actor? I watched a couple of good actors but I don’t have a favorite one.

18: Favorite color? Pink

19: Loud music or soft? Soft music. Loud music makes me lose focus.

20: Where do you go when you’re sad? I go into my room.

21: How long does it take you to shower? 30 minutes

22: How long does it take you to get ready in the morning? 30 minutes to an hour

23: Ever been in a physical fight? No, besides semi fights with my little sister when I was younger.

24: Turn on? Attractive person with a nice smile

25: Turn off? Clingy person. I need my space sometimes.

26: The reason I joined YouTube? The reason I joined YouTube because I knew I would enjoy posting videos and entertaining others. Also, I thought it would be a good platform to put a positive effect on people.

27: Fears? Not being able to pursue my dreams

28: Last thing that made you cry? A documentary I watched on Netflix

29: Last time you said you loved someone? Last night

30: Meaning behind your YouTube Name? It basically means a reflection of my life experience and feelings. Also, it’s a piece of my name Destiny.

31: Last book you read? BEAT’N IT UPP by Darrell King

32: The book you’re currently reading? Home Wrecker by Dwayne S. Joseph

33: Last show you watched?  Moesha

34: Last person you talked to? My boyfriend

35: The relationship between you and the person you last texted? Boyfriend

36: Favorite food? French fries

37: Place you want to visit? California

38: Last place you were? My house

39: Do you have a crush? No

40: Last time you kissed someone? Yeah, this is too much information lol

41: Last time you were insulted? Can’t remember

42: Favorite flavor of sweet? Watermelon

43: What instruments do you play? None I want to play the piano though.

44: Favorite piece of jewelry? Earrings

45: Last sport you played? None

46: Last song you sang? Earlier today

47: Favorite chat up line? I don’t know what a chat up line is.

48: Have you ever used it? I’m confused use what?

49: Last time you hung out with anyone? Last weekend

50: Who should answer these questions next? Anyone that reads this tag.


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Right now, I need a vacation so bad. Taking a break from everything for a little while would help me out a lot. Trying to sleep to get my mind off of things isn’t working. Every time I close my eyes 👀 my thoughts gets louder in my head. It’s driving me crazyyyy! I’m a person that can sleep easily through the night cause I love sleeping. Since that has changed recently I know something is wrong. It seems like my anxiety is trying to sink back in. Then my depression wants to creep back up on me. Every time when life seems to go well that’s when things like this wants to happen 🙄. My only wish right now is going out-of-town to just relax. Too bad I can’t do that ☹️🤷🏾‍♀️. I can’t even hang out with “friends” to get things off my mind because they are never there on the regular anyway. Blogging about how I feel at the moment is relaxing me a little. I feel closer to my readers than to people in my every day life. That’s crazy right? Smh (shaking my head). Anyone else feel like they need a break from their daily life? And need to go on a vacation like me? 

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The Fun Question Tag

Hey, readers, I did some searching on google for a fun question tag. I found one! I want to give credit to Writing Audrey (click on her name to get the questions for the tag). She’s the first blog I came across that had this question tag. Every blogger should do this tag. It helps readers to get to know you more.  

Let’s Get Started…

1) When is your birthday? (You don’t have to include the year if you don’t want to.)

November 4th

2) What are 3 of your favorite colors?

Pink, Gold, and Pink again lol
3) What are your 3 favorites quotes?

“Life goes on” – Unknown

“I know you see me smiling, trying to cover the hurt” – Auburn

“But you still played me like a deck of cards. You know I can’t forgive you…” – Kelly Rowland

4) Are you addicted to YouTube?

Yessss! I visit YouTube like it’s my daily job! My addiction is bad lol. You can’t blame me. It’s so many talented creators on YouTube.


5) What are 3 of your favorite shows on TV or YouTube or both?

On TV my favorite shows are American Horror Story, Insecure, and

6) What are 3 qualities you like in a best friend?

Drama Free


7) Do you like your name? 

Yes, I love my name!! You don’t hear too many people say that.

8) If you have the choice to pick your own name, what will it be?
I wouldn’t want to change my name because I love it. Thanks mom for giving me a beautiful name!

9) What is your fantasy dream?

I don’t have one.

10) Do you wear makeup?

No, I don’t have time and patience to do makeup. I love my natural beauty! I wouldn’t mind learning how to do my makeup though. Just so I can wear it on occasions.

11) If you could write a book, what would the title be and what would it be about?
If I told you the answer to this question then that means someone can steal my idea!

12) What makes you cry?


13) What makes you angry?

Racism, Liars, disrespectful people

14) What makes you happy?
Positive feedback on my blog from my readers, food lol, getting a new book

15) What is “Fangirling?”

Fangirling to me is obsessing over a book series or TV show.

16) What are your 3 favorites snacks?
Rice krispy, brownies, blueberry muffins

17) What are your 3 favorite foods?

Hot wings, french fries, and mashed potatoes
18) What are your 3 favorite drinks?

Orange Soda, Minute Maid Fruit Punch, and Water

19) Can you tell us a little about yourself?

I’m currently a college student with big dreams. I’m always open to meeting new friends. I grew up in a small town. My mom raised me and my sister. I enjoy blogging because I feel like it’s my voice to reach out to people. My goal in life is to live happy, be successful, and spread positivity!
20) What are 10 random facts about you?

– I mostly listen to R&B music

– I gained weight over the summer lol

– I’m in a long distance relationship

– I love to eat!

– I’m from South Carolina, USA

– Dairy products make my stomach hurt

– I’m always sleepy

– I have no pets

– I love learning new things

– I’m good at writing

21) What are your 3 fun things to do?

Traveling to different places



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Ya’ll Just Don’t Understand

It’s funny how people think they know what’s going on with you just from what you show or tell them. They love to say slick comments because “they already know what’s going on in your life.” You know what let me get right into the point. I always have to pretend that everything is good with me. In reality, it’s not that way. I have to deal with my mood swings, anxiety, and depression. There are so many days and nights I cry out of frustration, hurt, and anger. Most people around me don’t understand how hard it is to deal with that. Plus, trying to balance having a “normal” life.

Then I don’t have anyone I fully trust or that understands what I go through internally. I’ve tried to express how I feel about things too many times to certain people in my life. It doesn’t work out because they act like they don’t care. That’s why I keep things to myself. Yes, I know it’s not good to keep everything bottled up inside. What else am I suppose to do?

I guess writing helps me pour out my feelings. It’s probably why God gave me this gift to write. It helps me to release bottled up feelings and connect to my readers. That’s the bright side of everything. People just don’t know how strong I am. Not everyone has a strong state of mind to turn everything negative in their life into something positive.

This is why I try not to focus on the negative in my life. I hate feeling upset and emotional. Everything is better when I stick with being positive through every situation I deal with. It’s true when they say everything happens for a reason. I know in the near future I will find my happiness. I can’t wait to life my life the way I want it.

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Things I Learned This Summer 

As summer is coming to an end.  I start reflecting on all the things I did. While sitting there in my thoughts I noticed a few things that changed for me. Some were good and the rest was sort of bad in my opinion. Everything that happened taught me a few lessons. It even opened my eyes more to certain situations. It’s time for me to share the things I learned this summer.

Lessons I Learned This Summer…

1) Take advantage of my time alone: When I’m alone and have time for myself I tend to get lazy. Sometimes I don’t like that because I know I need to get blog posts done, homework ( I took college summer classes), and a few other things. Once night fall come around I regret not doing some of those things because I  had plenty of time to do it. Especially when I wanted to post good content on my blog. Laziness is a bad trait!

2) Stop looking forward for plans with “friends”: When I made a couple of plans with some friends that didn’t work out. Sometimes it made me a little upset because they would either cancel at the last-minute or come up with some other excuses. That’s why I stop making plans and let life take its course. There were times I did get lucky and got to hang out with my best friend though.

3) Find time to take a vacation: I took three unexpected vacations this summer. Honestly, I’m glad I did get a chance to get away for a while. This summer was the first time in a long time I went on a vacation. Every one of the vacations I went on was meant for me.

Those were the major things I learned this summer. Overall, I enjoyed my summer. I can’t complain. If I had to go back in time to do everything over again. I probably would. Is there anything you learned this summer? If so, share it in the comment section.

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First Time Traveling Alone 😮😐🤗

Hey, readers, after a year of not seeing my boyfriend. I’m finally traveling to NY to see him. I miss being around him in person. For those of you who don’t know. I am in a long distance relationship. Check out my post about long distance relationships. My boyfriend lives in New York, USA and I live in South Carolina, USA. We don’t get to see each other often because traveling is EXPENSIVE! So, now I have a chance to see him this weekend. Y’all just don’t know how happy I am. Plus, his mom wedding is this weekend too! That’s going to be exciting. The only part I’m worried about is traveling alone because it’s my first time. I pray that I have a safe trip. I’m going to feel so lonely without my mom and sister with me. Also, it will be my first time visiting New York so that’s another nerve wrecking thing. I shouldn’t worry too much cause I know my boyfriend will make me feel comfortable there. Everyone pray that I have a safe trip going there. I’m leaving this evening and arrive there in the morning. I’ll be sure to share my experience. Have a nice day everyone. I’ll be back later lol.

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15 Fun Facts about Me

Hi, readers, I know most of you are interested in getting to know me better. I decided to do a post on 15 fun facts about me. I’m hoping everyone enjoys it. I’m sure we will have something in common.

1) I gain a new friend every year.

2) I have a birthmark on my chest that looks like a hickey.

3) I was an early bloomer (Girls will understand what I mean).

4) I can’t ride a bike.

5) Chris Brown was my first celebrity crush.

6) People always think I’m younger than my real age.

7) I’m always listening to R&B songs.

8) I always wear my natural hair in a ponytail or bun.

9) I learned how to dance from dancers in music videos.

10) I can spend hours on my computer.

11) When I feel stressed out I play the Sims 4.

12) My dreams predict situations that happen to me in the future.

13) I don’t give in to peer pressure.

14) I’m always eager to try new things.

15) One day I want to adopt kids.

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Confessions of a Passionate Writer (Collaboration)

First, I want to thank Kirah for collabing with me. We collab with each other on why are we passionate about writing. Be sure to read her article Confessions of a Passionate Writer: from the UK to the USA. For those of you who are not familiar with Kirah. She is a traveler who currently resides in England and is finding her footing in this world by eating, teaching and of course living out of a suitcase to write about the beauty that this world has to offer. Visit her blog to read more of her posts! 

My love for writing…

I can truly say I’m a writer. There’s not a day that goes by without me thinking about writing. I love seeing pages in my notebook filled with my soulful words. God gave me this gift and I’m loving it! I was always good in English. I didn’t know my gift was showing early. Now I’m glad I realized it. Every time I write down my feelings, thoughts, and ideas it relieves me. It gives me a breath of happiness. I would be lost if I didn’t find joy in writing.

Writing is a way to get my voice heard. It helps me to reach out to my readers and touch their hearts. Honestly, it means a lot to me when my readers read my posts. Y’all are my biggest supporters! I try my best to make a positive affect on everyone. I feel like it’s my purpose in life to connect with my readers or anybody else through my writing.

Starting my blog open up my eyes to how good I am at writing. My blog started off as a hobby for me. Now it’s a job that I enjoy doing. I get excited when I have new articles to share with my supporters. Sometimes, I have to laugh at myself at my excitement for writing. You can’t blame me for acting that way because not everyone enjoys writing.

Before I end this post, I want to most importantly thank God again for blessing me with this gift. Now I finally see my purpose in life. My passion for writing has given me happiness, a voice to say what others are feeling, and to inspire others who have the same dreams as me.

Thanks for reading my post. Please don’t forget to visit Kirah blog and read her article Confessions of a Passionate Writer: from the UK to the USA. 

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Started off My Morning on the Right Track

Good morning beautiful bloggers and readers.😊 I’m in a great mood this morning. This doesn’t happen too often cause I’m not a morning person lol. I tried something different that I don’t usually do. When I woke up I laid in bed for a while and was on my phone. A little while later I decided to go eat breakfast with my sister. For breakfast, I had strawberry and banana yogurt (yummy right?) and grilled chicken breast. I know it’s a weird combination to eat for breakfast but I was fine with it cause the food wasn’t too heavy on my stomach. After I had my weird breakfast lol I noticed it gave me energy. Lack of energy is something I always have so I was thankful my breakfast made a difference for me this morning.

My sister and I did a workout after breakfast. To be honest, eating a nice breakfast and doing a workout made me feel energized. Also, it put me in a great mood. I’m trying to start eating healthier and exercise more. Everyone, please pray for cause I know this will be a little tough for me to keep up with. I’m hoping everyone has an amazing day!

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Focusing on Myself and I’m Sticking to It

My Thoughts

This year is about me focusing on myself. I spent so much time focusing on other nonsense. I failed to realize I wasn’t making my own self happy. I started doing things that weren’t in my field of interest. I had to force myself to be happy with it because of others opinion. They were getting to me in a way. Eventually, I got to the point where I was fed up. This is when I push myself to feel confident in my skin. Many things I say may sound cliche, but it’s no other way to explain details about me.

It doesn’t matter to me if someone judges my choices. I’m not trying to live up to their expectations. I know what’s best for me. As time goes by I’m shaping into the person I’m supposed to be. Guess what I’m completely fine with it. No one will stop me from chasing my happiness! If you read this post tell me what’s your main focus for this year? 

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