Growing up without a father

Now, this is not your typical sad or angry story towards a man who doesn’t want to be a father. It’s definitely not “I need a father in my life” story neither. I’ll be sharing how I feel about growing up without a father. Every since I was born my father never tried to help take care of me. So you know my mother end up being a single mom. Growing up I didn’t have a bad childhood living in a single parent household. I can’t recall any moments where I dreamed to have a dad in my life. I do recall one memory that I’ll never forget. 

Every since I was born my father never tried to help take care of me. So you know my mother end up being a single mom. Growing up I didn’t have a bad childhood living in a single parent household. I can’t recall any moments where I dreamed to have a dad in my life. I do recall one memory that I’ll never forget. There was a time he promised me a birthday party for my 13th birthday. It never happened and that hurt me that day. I remember crying about it. I was shocked because I knew that it wasn’t going to happen but I still believed it. I guess I had a little hope inside of me being so young around that time. Like most fathers that don’t take care of their children, he gave false promises. That flashback was an example of it. I’m not trying to encourage anyone to go bash their father that never was there for them. You can be successful in life no matter if you lived in a single parent household or with two parents. If you grew up without a father like me one day he’ll regret and suffer for not being there for you like he was supposed to. Don’t carry around that baggage the rest of your life. For some I know it’s hard to not be angry towards your father especially if he was part of your life at a certain time. For me, like I said. Like most fathers that don’t take care of their children, he gave false promises. That flashback was an example of it.

I’m not trying to encourage anyone to go bash their father that never was there for them. You can be successful in life no matter if you lived in a single parent household or with two parents. If you grew up without a father like me one day he’ll regret and suffer for not being there for you like he was supposed to. Don’t carry around that baggage the rest of your life. For some I know it’s hard to not be angry towards your father especially if he was part of your life at a certain time. For me, like I said in the beginning of this post my father wasn’t there for me so basically it’s like he’s a person that never exist in my life. I know who he is and he calls every blue moon.  We don’t have a good father-daughter relationship. My question for everyone is do you have a good relationship with your father? 

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11 Comments

  1. Like you I never grew up with my father, but we speak on occasion. A two parent household isn’t necessarily better than one. But it speaking to my father did help me to understand certain circumstances. It’s a shame because absent father’s really miss out on such a great relationship with their children and I know this as I am also a father. Great post 👍🏾

    1. You right living in a two parent household doesn’t always prove that your life will turn out better. It’s good you got closure from your father. I agree some fathers don’t know what they are missing out on. Thank you!

  2. Hey Girl. ..
    I grew up with my father but he past away when I was 11 almost 12 years old. I’m so sorry that you didn’t grew up with your father dear.. 🙁
    ThnQ for sharing something so personal with us your a great daughter! I’m pretty sure your mom is very proud with a daughter like you.💯💯💯💯

    Have a great weekend!
    Hugs Miss B.💋

  3. Hey Miss B, I’m sorry to hear that your father passed away when you were younger. It’s fine it doesn’t bother me that my father never been around. You’re welcome. Yes, my mom loves and appreciates me dearly.

  4. I like you and many others out there, grew without my biological father. Fortunately I had a grandfather who really became the only father figure I know, love and respect until this day. I did not grow up with resentment towards him because he was not present, but gor other issues, and that is something I let go when I was in middle school. I just grew understanding that what I have is oh so precious. 🙂

  5. I am lucky to have two great parents. But I do think that a single-parent household can be better than a two-parents home if one of the parents doesn’t get that you are a mother and father first and everything else second.

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