Long Distance Relationships Aren’t Bad 

Now maybe the title of this post caught your attention or you could be curious. There’s nothing wrong with trying to find out why I wrote about this topic. Anyways, most people always have a negative thought about long distance relationships. Every time someone finds out that I am in one they always saying “your boyfriend is cheating on you”, “I can’t handle being away from my boyfriend or girlfriend for too long”, “how do you trust each other.” Oh yeah, I can’t forget the famous “you’re getting catfished” response.

Most of the time I ignore these questions or statements because once I try to explain myself there is always someone trying to play the devil’s advocate. Honestly, they won’t understand what a long distance relationship feels like until they experience catching feelings for someone who’s far away. Situations like this aren’t planned. It’s not like one day I woke up saying I want to be in a long distance relationship, so let me go find someone across the world to go date.

My point is this kind of relationship isn’t bad if you and your partner truly love each other, have good communication through text messages, video chats, or phone calls and make sure you’re able to trust each other. I definitely know that’s one of the hardest things to do, but if something is going on behind your back you’ll get a strange alarming feeling that will warn you. Another point I want to make that’s referring to cheating is even someone who dates a person that lives in the same town as they do can get cheated on as well. It all depends on if your partner truly loves and care about you. If someone tries to talk down on your long distance relationship ignore them cause I’m sure they are probably with someone who they are unhappy with or that’s cheating on them or they just don’t want to see you happy. I don’t mind being in my long distance relationship because I know that my boyfriend and I appreciate our quality time more than a couple that gets to see each other every day. 

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29 Comments

  1. Hi Destiny! I just happen to stumble across your blog and honestly, this post resonated with me on so many levels. Like yourself, I’m also in a interracial, long distance relationship. I know the struggle can be real sometimes. However, at the end of the day, it all comes down to trust and open communication. One cannot exist without the other. Your sentiment on how you and your boyfriend appreciate the time you spend together more than couples that see each other on a regular basis is real! It makes me happy to read about other couples who share the same views and have the same struggles. It restores my faith 🙂

    I love your blog by the way girlie!!

    Best,

    Alisa

    1. Hello, Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post 😊. My passion is to write relatable experience for everyone. I’m glad it connects to your situation. Also, it shows we have some things in common.

  2. Hey Destiny,I really love what you’re doing.About the LDRs thing,I can relate quite well coz I’m currently in one.it’s tough but communication is the main thing here,just video calling etc,that’s what keeps such relationships strong.The LDRs also has it’s own advantages,so guys should not only look at it from the negative perspective.I wish you all the best in your relationship.

  3. Great to run across your blog. I left the blogging world for a bit (2 years). I’m trying to catch my followers up on my world. I am currently in a LDR too, but haven’t shared it on blog yet. I am getting ready to. It seems like you have this figured out. I too am getting comments. My relationship is new and we are 2000 miles apart. Thankfully, he has the means and reasons to travel to me frequently (monthly or bi-monthly). I have some questions for you…1) how far apart are you from your guy? Is it driving distance? 2) How often do you actually get to spend time together in person? 3) Communication can be a problem…especially when you are busy – how do you stand the down time? I also have a 3 hour time difference which causes problems. Have you had to deal with that? Look forward to chatting!

    1. We are 758.8 miles apart which isn’t too bad. We don’t get to see each other too often cause of financial problems. Honestly, we only saw each other 3 times in person. Usually I try to keep myself busy like watch a movie, run errands, or maybe sleep lol. Basically just do activities that you enjoy when you have down time. No, I don’t have to deal with a time difference because we live in the same time zone. Welcome back to the blogging world 😊it’s nice meeting you! I’m Destiny by the way.

  4. Hi! How are you? I follow your blog because it is very interesting and inspiring. I really love it. How’s your day going? I hope we could be friends. I can’t wait to read your upcoming blog post. Have a good day ahead!

  5. Whenever I search something up, I always come upon your blogs. I’m glad I do because you have some amazing things to say that I, like many others, can relate to. So I hope it won’t be weird if I keep linking your posts to some of my blogs haha.

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